Feeling betrayed by everyone
My best friend betrayed with me. She pranked me with a boy. She introduced him with me. After that I fell in love with him. Some times letter I got that she was betrayed with me to put me down. After that I broke up with that boy and cut off my friendship with her. After this incident, I can't sleep well. I always feel so low, suicidal and depressed.
I also feel like my parents don’t want me or love me. They has no hope for me that I can also achieve my goals.
The man I like recently, don’t like me.
Each and every incident bother me in every moment. I can't even concentrate on my studies. I have board exam and University admission 8 months letter. I am just feeling hopeless. Sometimes I stand on the middle road so that a car can hit me. But my luck is so damn that no car hit me.
From the very childhood I faced my parents quarrel. When I see them in this situation, I feel so broken.
I just want stay happy, lead a happy and healthy life. Want to be loved by my parents, the man i like. Is that too much?
@secretEast2598 no see the that's not to much ❤ you deserve all good things and more ❤ that was a very mean thing of your friend to do🙁 people can be mean for no reason, and no fault of your own. Also your parents arguments are no fault of yours either. I'm sorry your having a hard time right now, but don't give up hope ❤ things have a funny way of working out ok in the end ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ we are all right here for you ❤
Thank u so much dear 💗
@secretEast2598 There is nothing wrong with wanting to be liked or loved, to be appreciated, to give and receive affection. However, like everything else worth having, there is a price to be paid.
If you visited another country, entered a shop and tried to pay with money from your country, they probably would reject it. Being upset that they won't accept your type of money, that they want their type of money, is a waste of your energy.
You write that the man you like does not like you. Are you offering the specific type of things that he wants? I'm not suggesting that you pretend to be someone you are not, but each person responds to specific things. You can be the most fantastic woman in the world in an objective sense, but if you do not offer his subjective criteria, you won't get him.
How well do you know this man? What traits of his cause you to like him? Many men are motivated by challenge. They don't want what they can get easily. Is he like that?
I knew a woman at work who liked one of our co workers, but did not know how to get him interested in her. I told her to find out what he did outside of work. It turned out that he liked to work with wood, making furniture. I told her to go home and break a piece of her furniture. She laughed. I continued. Go to him and ask him, "Can you please help me? I'm looking for a good carpenter" Many men like solving problems, they like a woman who makes them feel useful. He was not interested much in her, but this got his attention, and it went from there. They are now boyfriend and girlfriend.
I don’t know him so well. Actually he is in charge of management on my tuition class. I want to talk with him. But he's not interested. He is well behaved, gentle and kind. This part made me falling for him. I proposed him. But he rejected me saying that I'm so much young and I should concentrate on my studies 😔
@secretEast2598 I don't know your chronological age, or extent of life experience, but you should be aware that in a work environment, men now have to be extremely cautious dealing with females. It's easy now for a man to lose his job over an accusation. It's easy for people to assume an older man is taking advantage of a less mature woman. There is nothing wrong with wanting affection and connection in your life, of wanting to be close to people whose traits you value. Just be aware that most people have a spectrum of traits, both good and bad, and the bad sometimes stays hidden until you get close. Romance is a fantasy, an illusion. Love is often fleeting. There is no such thing as one perfect person for you, one perfect match does not exist. Remember also that when you find someone, you may not have the traits they are searching for. Keep looking, but choose carefully and move slowly. No one worth knowing will rush you.
@secretEast2598 Feeling depressed or suicidal is actually normal. It's your brain telling you to take action to change your circumstances.
You did the right thing cutting that "best friend" out of your life. Now, look back. How did you choose that best friend, and how will you choose your new friends?
A romantic relationship can be a huge energy drain, a huge game of "who needs it more". The person who needs and wants it more ends up getting badly hurt. Never let someone know that you value them above everyone else. Let them be aware that you can always get another boyfriend, that you are valuable and worth working for. This is difficult but not impossible.
It's normal for parents to feel that their children's goals might be unrealistic. The world itself is going to offer you lots of discouragement. Blindly positive support from your parents may not be the best thing for you. Nothing wrong with trying, as long as you are prepared for failure.
Thank you so much. Feeling so light after hearing this. Can you tell me one thing that should I move on from the man i like?
