A passing question.
What factor makes an individual feel lonely?
Is it a fear of rejection or the pressure of life?
Is it the weakness of social ties or technology?
Or is it a loss of meaning in the sea of information?
In this large society, the individual is looking for an answer.
About the reason for the unity of his soul under the heavy crowd.
@niceFarm8679
IMO Lonely is not a one size fits all emotion. i have been lonely in a crowed room surrounded by people . Lonely to me is lack of connection.
In this world we are surrounded by many people .....but our connections often are superficial surface level. Maybe we do not put effort to connect knowing so many are fleeting.
It is hard to make connections, when so many are busy being busy and are missing opportunities to make real and deeper connections.
Friends are often short term now days as people change schools / jobs or such that may have been your initial reason to make a connection. Technology did not help as we have "friends" we have never or may will never meet in real life.
Wow! It's a very good description. That's what I was looking for. You can feel lonely for no specific reason.
So how can a person break the barrier of fear in getting to know who are most likely "friends" whom he has never met before?
@Fatmaisasoup
The most thing makes you feel lonely is when you deeply feel that no one would love you or accept you even
2nd , it's when you feel that you don't deserve love from anyone
Oh dear!
The second one is the worst, this means that the person doesn't love himself and this is a bigger problem!
@FatmaisasoupI
I can say it will be pressure of life because even you may be rejected by many because of their priorities. But if you have pressure on your life even if you have people around you can't get rid of it. But if those people are the reason for that pressure then it is too much.
@HopeforjoyI understand your point about life stressors, but I don’t completely agree. Social stressors can be difficult, but they don’t necessarily mean loneliness.
@Fatmaisasoup
Missing love could be one factor. Theres a theory called the 5 languages of love. It states that love can be divided into 5 categories.
Words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service and receiving gifts.
And the theory is that each child will receive a different amount of each category and will therefore put different value on each category.
When i grew up there wasnt much time for me nor money for gifts, so the most love i received came from hugs. So now when i feel lonely, i really feel a strong need of hugs. While someone else that is missing love, might not really care about hugs but miss i.e. spending time with someone, that i personally dont care about at all, as long as i get the occasional hug.
Altho you also bring up other factors like technology, which are very relevant. They tend to mess with your dopamine system and with your emotions in all kind of ways. Which can amplify your pains or make you feel more lonely than you really are. Or mess with your energy and motivation levels making social interactions less fun.
@KasperTheGhosttt I totally agree with you about the five love languages theory. Your personal experience shows how childhood can shape our preferences for expressing and feeling love. I also believe that love can be warm hugs and emotional coverings. I was raised the same way!
Hugs express love and care in a way that verbal expressions alone cannot. They foster a sense of belonging and acceptance, and strengthen relationships.
