Will I get better
This is probably stupid but I’ve lately come to terms with some toxic behavior I’ve exhibited. I’ve had horrible falling outs with people and I only recently realized what I was doing wrong. I was being mean, insensitive, manipulative, and more. In general it was a bunch of really self destructive behavior. I know it’s insane to say I didn’t realize what I was doing wrong but to put it simply, I’m very much a product of how I was raised. I’ve been acting just like a few negative influences in my life and I had no clue they were bad influences and were treating me bad because I had just accepted it as normal. Well now that I’ve had people point out to me everything, I want nothing more than to become a better person. Now that I know what I’ve done wrong I know what to work on, I’m even trying to get professional help for it all. However, I keep seeing people talk about how people never change and no one is deserving of redemption. I’ve seen tons of posts saying that no one changes and everyone who has done wrong deserves to suffer for the rest of their life. I feel so horrible and now I feel like I can’t get better.
@courteousOcean9942
”… people talk about how people never change and no one is deserving of redemption.”
I might guess from your word choice (deserving of redemption) that perhaps this thinking is coming out of some religious context perhaps?
We are shaped by the experience of our past without our consent. Of course if you chose to be born into your family, then yeah you deserve it (just kidding).
People never change? That’s a depressing thought. It’s also really inaccurate. The past does have some effect on us but our actions today are what count more. You have the desire to change! Therapy can be really helpful with that.
Everything in the universe changes constantly. Every breath you take is a change. Your thoughts and emotions are also in a constant state of change.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy was really helpful for me to make changes. So yeah, I totally disagree with the notion than people never change. Don’t let people discourage you on your path to personal change.
