I feel like I am burning out
I work at a place where I have to take care of young teen girls and boys and I am normally getting screamed at or cussed at every other day and I can’t push out my emotions on how I feel because I would get in trouble, so I push all these emotions down and they all boil up and when I go home to my husband he does just something so little and I blow up on him and I didn’t even mean to but I am just so angry lately on what I have to go through at work and I enjoy it but it’s affecting my mental health more than I ever imagined it would!
@Emily0930
It is very hard when we need to keep our cool and then take things home. I hope you have shared with your spouse the pressure you are under. I let work cause issues for similar reasons.
If you have co-workers have you spoke to them about coping methods they use.
@toughTiger6481
I have spoken with co workers and they just say leave it at work but it’s harder than that to just turn it off and go home and not take it personal
i’m in a similar boat. You absolutely have to find ways to have healthy coping and practice self-care. Find a way to get it out of your system… Because it is still in your system. All the times you held back throughout the day, it has to go somewhere and I think you would agree that it’s unfair to take it out on the people you love. practice, journaling, take a relaxing bath, call a fun friend, pick up hobbies you enjoy it as a child, anything to fill up your tank
Could I get some ideas of good coping skills on how to leave work stress at work and not to bring it home?
@Emily0930
I found it hard to do and occasionally i still bring something home. I found the idea of talking to myself as a walk out of office to say " it is NOW me time " .........and i should focus on personal not left over ideas of what i have to do or whom has not emailed back etc.
I also found when i do get home if my spouse asks how was my day i only speak of my time live i had a good lunch/ drive home traffic but not say anything of office,
if I start dumping frustration it breaks my promise to myself to leave there . Also spouse seems to have limit of listening or understanding and I do not want to use it up on things neither of us can change.
I was in a similar situation when I used to work at the school. Students would insult me and threaten to kill me and say I’m stupid and dumb. Sometimes they would even hit me but those were the elementary schoolers so it didn’t hurt. I had to quit. I couldn’t do it. I was also yelling at my boyfriend all the time and the stress was badly affecting me. I don’t want to say you should quit or anything cause if you do enjoy your job, then you should stay there. But from what it sounds like, you dont enjoy it as much as you should. A job is just a job at the end of the day. It’s shouldn’t affect your mental health and stress you out the way it does. It might not hurt looking into therapy or other job openings.