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How do you overcome the hopelessness

plum6459 August 13th, 2022

Hello, I was diagnosed with schizophrenia, I can accept taking medicine the whole life, but I am living in the fear of the disease will relapse, feel hopeless, do not know the meaning of living such a difficult life, anyone has the similar thinking and how do you overcome it?

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innateJoy9602 August 14th, 2022

@plum6459

Hello!

I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I appreciate that you opened up about yourself and your worries to the community. I can’t imagine the difficulty. I hope you find comfort in this community. <3 🌿🌺

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plum6459 OP August 14th, 2022

@innateJoy9602


Thank you for the reply and willing to listen to me and emotional support. The difficult thing for me is that feel it is a life long journey to struggle with the disease, and the fear is that if it relapse, I might lose job and friendship, I could not find some friends to talk about my struggle and get support as I am afraid they will leave me if they know it.

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innateJoy9602 August 15th, 2022

@plum6459

That's understandable. Just know the community are also your friends. We are here for you. <3🌿🌺

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Arn559 August 26th, 2022

Who can accept you with your flaws that is your real friend & family

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plum6459 OP August 16th, 2022

Hello, i feel better from yesterday. Thanks for the support and help. I want to share how I use CBT(cognitive behavior therapy) to cope with such depression and anxiety/hopelessness.


Date: 8/15/22, 9:17 PM


Title: Hopelessness to calm


Mood: Good


Activities:

Friends


Emotions:

Calm

Relieved


Details: I feel good because Online friend told me my hopelessness is because of my anxiety

I feel calm because I thought there is no future but this is my negative thoughts as no one know the future, only my attitude/behavior can affect the future, and it might be good


Unhelpful Thought: Hopelessness because I think my disease will relapse and will lose my job/friends/family/money, and there is nothing better for me, and I could not raise the kid because I am dependent on him, and it is difficult life long journey, even want to give up



Cognitive Distortions:

• Filtering Out Positive

• Fortune-telling

• Catastrophizing


Challenge: There is someone with disease handle it well for 9 years, and someone with disease have job until retire, if I try my best, I can handle it well.

It does not happen now, and whether it will happen in the future depends on my attitude and action.

Everything will be difficult if think it whole life, even eating food, just do it step by step.

I can try to learn do things independently.

Whether there is something better, you do not know the future as I did not know I would be in CA and live a good life, just focus on present and do it good if you do not have a long-term goal, then good things will come.

It is because of my anxiety, so I feel this, it is not the fact, I need to break the negative thinking cycle and build positive thinking cycle, cycle is not only in relationship, but also in thinking/action.

There is someone willing to help and support even they know my disease, I just need to find more support from people have the similar issue.



Alternative Thought: I actually am in anxiety.

I now think maybe I can have a better future if I do it well, even I do not know what it will be.

I can learn to cope with anxiety and things will be good

Arn559 August 25th, 2022

Believing in God will give you hope..

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plum6459 OP August 25th, 2022

@Arn559

Thanks for the reply, it is good to have beliefs.

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Gin83 August 25th, 2022

Read books on boosting personal self-esteem)

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plum6459 OP August 25th, 2022

@Gin83

Thanks for the suggestion, I will try to find some books about this, is there any book you recommend?

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toughLion8324 September 14th, 2022

I have similar feelings. I am all the time hopeless and in fear that my schizophrenia will relapse but I closely work with my doctor to make sure it doesn't. I have a good psychiatrist who talks with me on phone as well. So that any crisis can be prevented.

I hope you can manage your schizophrenia.



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plum6459 OP September 16th, 2022

@toughLion8324

Thanks for your reply, it is difficult to manage this disease but I need to try my best.

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adaptableFig1408 September 16th, 2022

@plum6459 You have to give yourself a cooling-off period, and then you have to think about the reasons. Turn despair into motivation. And can also find someone you like to talk to.

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plum6459 OP September 19th, 2022

@adaptableFig1408

Thanks for your suggestion, I am currently not in despair any more, but it is still some way to turn it into motivation.

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