Psychosis
Hi! I have been in a relationship with a partner who has bpd. He has been having signs of psychosis for over two weeks now, and recently just told me that he wanted to break up. This was due to an argument we had, in which he completely went apathetic towards halfway through. Last week he told me he loved me too much to ever lose me, but now is saying he hasn’t loved me for a while. Do I just accept this breakup and cut all ties with him? Or what am I supposed to do? Does he truly feel this way if he is going through a psychotic episode. He has done this same thing before, but came immediately back, so I am not sure how to approach it this time.
Any advice helps, thank you.
@jaspermoonlight
Hello,
I’m sorry you are having relationship difficulty.
You know him better than us, so I can’t offer any advice<3
However, please remember to reflect on how you feel and what you want<3
Hope everything turns out well<3
Sending hugs💛✨
@jaspermoonlight If a previous psychotic episode caused this to happen before, then it does seem like you have to factor that in. The middle of a psychotic episode is not a good time to make a big decision about the future.
When you write "bpd", if you mean borderline personality disorder, then that makes things even more complicated, because rapidly switching between loving someone too much and not loving them at all is said to be a typical symptom. When you ask if he truly feels this way, it's an impossible question to answer. His mental illness means that nothing he feels is true and stable.
What are you supposed to do? I am not an expert, but I know there are experts who would say a normal relationship is not possible if he really does have BPD with psychosis. However, if he only has psychotic episodes and possibly bipolar disorder, then I think experts would generally say it's likely these can be controlled with medication.
Charlie
I’ve tried to communicate with him to not make such drastic life decisions, however he keeps refusing saying he has felt this way for months. How would I deescalate the situation from turning into a big breakup like he wants?
@jaspermoonlight Oh yes, I completely agree. It might be difficult or impossible for you to deescalate, given his current mental state.
Charlie
Do you believe that giving him his space will allow him to deescalate himself with time? Right now, he’s still pushing me away verbally but less with his actions. It is very divided.
@jaspermoonlight I suppose if he has done the same thing before then you can expect him to come to his senses eventually, but I think it's impossible to be sure how it will go. It sounds like he accepts that you are still around, even as he pushes you away verbally.
Charlie
I agree. He was much more enthusiastic and slipped with his words a couple times today. He was calling me pet names and said “I love you” on accident and tried to cover it up. After, he expressed that he “still had the same mindset”. So I’m not sure if that means he is slowly splitting back to a more white viewpoint of me, or if he’s just trying to keep his pride and remain stubborn with a decision he made while mad?
@jaspermoonlight Yes, trying to keep his pride makes sense as an explanation. It's likely he doesn't understand his own thoughts either.
Charlie
i guess u just keep supporting him with whatever he needs like meds or therapy and ur presence and he’ll feel so much better