Partner of a Person with Bipolar.
Hi guys, never used a Community. Looking for support for myself as the Partner of a Person With Bipolar, I need to become more understanding, easier on him. I’m quick to Get angry when I don’t feel like I’m treated right :( I’m concerned at the state of the relationship right now. I want changes made, is this an unfair Ask, can a Bipolar person do this, or is it too Much? we have barely spoken in weeks.
I’s there fellow Partner’s of a Person With Bipolar.
@impartialPenny6390
Hello,
Welcome to the community forum!
I appreciate you for making the effort to try to want to better understand him and his condition.
It’s a very commendable thing of you to do.
I hope you find the support you need<3 💛✨
@impartialPenny6390 hi, there thank you so much for sharing with us today! When it comes to your question, please don't ever think that it's unfair to ask that of your partner. It's completely understandable for you to want to be treated in a certain way, a healthy way.
I don't suffer from bipolar, but I do suffer from BPD, and it is extremely hard to deal with it. I do have a partner as well and sometimes I feel guilty when I treat them badly and I don't want to.
What I usually do is having discussions with my partner in how to get better at our relationship. We define a day per week so we can talk about it. We also forgive a lot but we have boundaries.
Would it be possible for you to have that with yours?
Best of wishes 💜
My husband has bipolar too. I have a hard time with the mood swing and triggers. I find it difficult to know what are appropriate expectations of him. Then I question if it’s all worth it. And like a roller coaster our relationship goes up and down constantly. I feel your frustrations.
@Hopefullady27, you worded this Fantasticly 💕 thank you for connecting with me. I love the phrase you used “I find it difficult to know what are appropriate expectations of him” that’s what I was Trying to say. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s commendable to be a Wife and Caregiver, it takes a loving soul like your, your husband is always your husband, we all have our areas where we can sometimes fall short, but keep building people up and form and opinion on there best and good quality’s. Keep it up. He is the one you love and you are the one he loves :)
@impartialPenny6390 hello, I do suffer Bi P and most likely a few other things and when I did things that I knew were hurtful or upsetting, it wasn’t until after the event I even acknowledged what was going on.. I did regret them but couldn’t stop as had no tools to show me how..
then the feeling of guilt, inhibited me from being able to act normally again.. we need a soft place to land e.g. we/ well, I struggled as I knew I hurt those I loved.. but couldn’t go and say sorry as thought / knew they were upset and it was my fault.. which led to the cycle repeating.. eventually I removed myself from everyone I knew family friends and others as it was better for them not to have to deal with me..
if however someone was able to start the conversation in a “soft” way, I would have been able to open up.. if there was someone who knew how to handle BI-p disorder and help with the sorry part that I wanted to say soooo much, I may have kept some form of a life.. alas, moved to the woods and only now this week found this free site.. I am in Oz and very remote now last 5+ years, wish I knew this site it may have saved my friends, ex partners and family a lot of struggle..
also, we have a choice in getting treatment or not.. for me the medication made me a zombie and that’s no way to live.. maybe try some joint councillor stuff or listener thingys on here, with them on a new account for the two of you? Keep this one for you and getting support from others wiser than I.. wishing you lots of luck..🌅
we may be hard to deal with, but it is worth it.. if they are willing to get help.. 🤷🏼♂️👍🇦🇺🐾🌄✌️🦘