Trying hard with neurotypicals and failing
Hi All, I have worked hard to unmask as much as I consciously can and I really believe in bringing my authentic self to people and logically I think, if they can't accept me than oh well. But that thought pattern doesn't actually work in hindsight.
I'm feeling very rejected for being me and it feels really confusing. I am someone who once interested in a topic or wanting more information on a topic, I'll learn everything I can about that topic. Sometimes these topics are apparently controversial.. But I don't understand why or how they could be controversial when you have accurate information.
I don't enjoy surface level conversations about weather, sports, etc. And inevitably someone will eventually insert their opinion/harmful belief about something that is factually incorrect. When I provide facts to try to eradicate that harmful dialect, Im then ignored. No one wants to talk to me any longer. Am I supposed to let people say inaccurate, harmful, and hurtful things?
I don't tend to get emotionally dysregulated or anything providing the information, I just say something like "oh well actually.. ". Anyways, I'm now feeling incredibly isolated and rejected for being me. For having knowledge and sharing it when someone says something incorrect.
I don't know what to do.
@Farmsnfreedom I’m sorry to say this, but a lot of people out there. Do talk about the weather or sports to make small conversations. unless you mention to them you want to talk about something specific or you find a specific group to talk about these things you won’t really get anywhere. But I’m also very happy to say that there are also people out there who may be want to get to the point and skip small talk altogether so I guess I can say it depends on the person
@Farmsnfreedom I'd say set yourself up for success by looking for the right crowd. Look for academics, writers, readers, and creatives and you'll most likely have an easier time avoiding small talk. Plus, these groups of people are usually more open minded. I'm currently part of an artist group and when we get together, almost none of the conversation is small talk and definitely no one talks about the weather or sports. What topics are you interested in right now?
