Need help as a parent to autistic boy
Hello,
while I myself don’t have autism my son has more severe autism. Over the last few months he’s been having massive outburst that usually go violent. Doesn’t matter we’re we are or what we are doing.
I’ve had to bring him to er numerous times because they get that bad. I’ve put him on medication. Got him into therapy (only to get him dropped because of attendance because I can’t safely transport him in an episode).
I’m honestly desperate for any kind of help at this point because no matter how I attempt to help it’s falling apart.
I’ve had to quit working. Can’t go any where.
@calmAvocado2133 , hey there , firstly just so you know I don't know anything that's can prove helpful for your son. Just putting that out their so you don't presume it's going to be what you are expecting. I just wanted to pop in and and say your are great. Really any child would be lucky to have somebody like you who is so willing to learn , understand and support their children . Yeah I know you didn't volunteerly sign up to be your son's mom or anything, but there is always a choice , to turn your back or stand by them through thick and thins. I just want to remind you that you choosing the later option makes you a super sweet loving mummy. I know you are feeling confused and helpless regarding the roung time your son's going through. And I hope you can find something that makes him feel better. But if it takes some while , please don't think your failing or letting down someone here. We all are clueless sometimes. And we all get through eventually
@calmAvocado2133
I think you are doing the best that you can for your son. But your son doesn't want to do anything about his behavior or get help with his autism. I would just try talking to him and come up with a plan that might make him interested in receiving help. I also have autism so I know what you and your kid is going through.
@calmAvocado2133
maybe something hurts ? can he tell you hurts or not ? Im autistic and deaf and did not know how to tell when something hurt until few years ago and still now sometimes get really upset and overwhelmed and don’t know why and takes while figure out something hurts or am overwhelmed or get sensory overload happens
Hello everyone,
so here is the updates.
so far the doctors don’t show anything physically wrong. My son can communicate when he is physically hurting. We got him into therapy to relearn the skills that disappeared. In addition got him on meds.
He’s doing much better now.
Still have rough days but they are lessening.
If only to give you some peace of mind I wanted to share about my sister who has autism too, she struggled massively as a child and my parents went practically insane because they couldn't control, understand or communicate with her. She had violent outbursts constantly, issues sleeping to the point where she developed hallucinations from the lack of sleep, behavioural problems- everything was a battle, especially anything self care related such as getting her to eat, dress, clean, etc, and she even attempted at ages as young as 7 because of the war she must of been going though in her head.
BUT. she is now 19 years old about to go to college! She is an incredibly intelligent, artistically talented, funny, loving and wonderful person. She still has numerous struggles of course but I guess what I'm trying to say is that it gets better. Love and support is all anyone can ask of you, which you clearly are doing!
Wishing you all the best 😊
