weird affection?? please help
hey, im having a weird problem. so, all of my friends are really kind and i love them alot, and there's some people in my friend group that i like less but are still nice. the weird thing is, no matter what, EVERYONE treats me like, a little sister? like i need to be protected and stuff, and boys cant talk to me, etc. BUT IM A BOY, and they know that, but it still happens? i dont cut my hair because, idk, its like a hoodie but part of me so i can avoid eye contact. but its making me uncomfortable as to how they view me and i dont know how to change it.
@RaspberryRiver
It sounds like you feel uncomfortable with the way your friends are treating you, and you think they are treating you like older brothers would treat a baby sister? Communication is always the first step to understand. You might consider asking one of your friends next time about it, privately. For example, if you want to talk to a person, but someone says 'no you can't', then maybe ask them why they feel that way diplomatically. Ultimately, you can only try to control your actions and perceptions. I think the first step is to understanding why the unusual behavior has started.
@Listeningseed so, ive asked them indirectly before, but i asked Sam today and he said that he like, needed to? like he felt like it was his job to and i asked why and he doesnt know but he said he wouldnt feel comfortable not protecting me and idk what to do with that bc he's really nice but im not a girl? and i asked a few of the girls in our group why they think he does and why they act different too and they said because apparently people think im really cute but im FUCKING NOT but they wont let it GO and im getting really bothered by this.
@RaspberryRiver
You've listed that you are an adult in your biography. Are you and Sam both over 18? This is a safe space. Your public profile also indicated that you have LBTG questions, and you are still trying to find yourself. There are good resources and LBTG support forums, aside from this one on anxiety. So you have several support areas here. It's possible that you have mentioned ideas and topics that are uncomfortable to your family, and their response is to try to protect you from potential issues with the society. For example, in some religions, there are laws against saying and doing certain things. If you've asked questions about those things prohibited by the church law, then this might be why Sam is 'protecting' you.
I wish you the best. I recommend guided meditation for releasing stress and anxiety as well as the LBGT support forums to answer more content specific questions.
@RaspberryRiver Well I don't think you need to change. I think you sound fine to me, if you think that there is something wrong with you then go to the hospital, but if you don't then I would say if you stick your head up high and live how you want, whether it be with long hair or not, that is okay. So you be you. But I do think that if you don't like being treated like a little sister then be yourself a little bit more and show them what you are that you are not that, because it is okay for them to think what they want but you are you and if they don't know that then maybe they aren't your friends.
@RaspberryRiver
It sounds like you have friends that care about you a lot. So much so that they're more focused on protecting you from physical pain over emotional pain. It sounds like you're emotionally stressed out. I suggest that you take some time, maybe get yourself out of the situation that causes you stress and do some self care. Maybe take some time away from your friends and find something relaxing that you like to do. Even if it's just for 10 minutes. The goal is just to give your mind and body a chance to recover from all the stress. After you feel better I'll post what I think you're possible options are.
