Weird vibes after travelling with friend
It's been 3 days since I came home from London with my best friend. It was our first time travelling together and also without our families. It went great and we were on the same page the whole trip. Her mom picked us up from the airport, I knew she was super tired after the trip home, we both were and I sensed it so we didn't really talk in the car. Then I thanked her for a great trip and that we'll see eachother tomorrow because we both had Covid test appointments at the same time and she said yes. Yesterday morning she texts me that she had already taken the test, I asked why she went so early and she said she just felt like taking it early, but she said it kinda coldly. The rest of the day we talked a little bit but her texts felt weird and uninterested. Yesterday I sent her a short text because I watched something that reminded me of an inside joke and I hoped she'd find it funny but she left me on read and then today the hotel sent me an email and I sent her a text telling her what they sent because it was important. It's been on delivered all day but I know she has her phone on her at all times. I am feeling like I'm being so clingy and annoying. I get that we were together for 10 full days which is a lot and people need time apart after a trip like this but something feels off. I have read blog posts about people never talking to their friends again after traveling together and this scares me. Should I give it a couple days before I say something? Am I being completely insane and obsessive thinking like this? She has anxiety herself so maybe she just needs distance for a while? But it feels clingy to ask if everything's ok after one silent day, like I expect that something has to be wrong for her to not talk to me for one day. But if that's the case, then why am I annoyed that she hasn't said that she just doesn't feel like talking? It's not like she's obligated to announce that to me...
I’m sorry, I know this is hard for you. Being ignored is never a good feeling especially if you care about that person. I think she might need some time alone. You are right, some people need space after a long trip with friends. I would wait a couple days to message her again and just let her know that you are getting slightly worried and hope she’s doing okay.
@Hand4u thank you so much for your reply, I think you're right I shouldn't push her to talk i'm just used to talking to her and seeing her everyday for like 5+ years so It's deifinitely a me problem. I am worried about her, I know she has a lot of anxiety and has gone through some rough stuff this year and feel like I'm abandoning her or being selfishly ignorant for not asking how she is. But then again, it's one day, maybe she was just busy lol. I remember how excited she was to go home (but in a bittersweet way) because she had gotten a bit homesick by the end, so I'm certain she's just been visiting her family and spending time with them and 'recovering' if that's the correct way to word it. I can't help but feel a little hurt that she needs space from me, especially because I don't feel like I need any time away to breath from her, makes me overthink my behaviour on the trip, if I was being to much or too annoying or taking too much control. But I mean I get it, it doesn't have to be a negative thing, it's normal to need space to recharge from anyone. But if she hasn't made contact in a couple of days, I'll contact her to see what's up. Wow sorry how long this reply became, it turned into a whole diary entry hahah
It nice to hear how much you care about your friend and I understand you just want to make sure she is doing okay. I think you feel annoyed because this is probably something she doesn’t do often so to you it feels a bit off. It would be best to wait for her to reach out when she is ready and maybe whenever you guys talk again, you can tell her how you felt :) It is always good to show friends how much you care about them. Hope everything works out!