I don't know how to make friends
Hey.
I'm a second year community college student and I haven't had friends since I left high school. And even the friends I had in my final years in high school were more almost more acquaintances than anything else - like, we almost never hung out outside of school; I was almost a peripheral member of the friend group. In high school, I joined a youth group. I liked the people there, they liked me. They where always excited to see me and I was always excited to see them. But I never knew what to do to make these relationships outside meeting once a month and I didn't want to cross boundaries. People gave me their numbers and I never texted them because I was afraid of being irritating. I flat-out do not know how to make relationships. It's depressing and I'm afraid I'm never going to grow out of it.
How do you all deal with the fear of not being good enough and just talking and building relationships with people? I never seem to know how to hold conversations with people except the ones I'm closest too. :-/ I feel like I'm decaying.
@walkers
By golly first! U aren't decaying:)
First of all.....no one is perfect. Seriously. If you can be able to be who you want to be. You want a friend, who you can be with-with the least effort. It takes time. thats okay
. You will eventually find someone who you find that you actually can be more comfortable than others.
As for being awkward and all that. Gosh im plenty that haha. If you try, u will be able to do it. Maybe someone else will look upon and try to make more effort to be friends with you. Reversed :)
Remember to be who you who you want to be, be able to feel comfortable with them, make sure obviously they are good people. Not the ones you don't want to be around with. It will come naturally to you. :) Be open if you feel like you can. Smile and say hi! Greet people if you know them.
Personally Im pretty awkward cuz the introverted side of me shows up (knock knock) so yeah.
~Truly from NA: AstralShadow, You can do it!
As i like to always follow.... :) I always and still looking on this category:
"Quality over quantity"
Hi, I struggle with the same thing. I came across one study (which I tried to find again but I coudn't find it :/ - I wanted to give you a link to that :/). Well I'll just copy the summary here that I saved some time ago, you may find it interesting, sorry if it doesn't pertain to your problem:
Did u ever figure it out? Your probably not on this app anymore but I'm in the same place I think I've just given up on it really. What is life when u cant form relationships with other people? Its nothing it sucks