Advice on learning social skills

@C321 I know this must be really tough for you to deal with, and I'm glad you reached out to 7Cups for help. It's really brave of you that you shared your experiences so honestly.

It takes some time and hard work, but social anxiety can definitely be reduced if you receive the right help. I think you might find this awesome guide useful in terms of understanding the mechanisms of social anxiety. It also offers a lot of tips on how to cope with it. https://www.7cups.com/social-anxiety/

You can also try and browse for listeners who have social anxiety listed as one of their areas of interest. I hope you can find a good match who can understand and help you explore this topic with you.

You're not alone struggling with social anxiety, and the good news is that there are effective ways to fight it! :) I wish you the best with that! <3

@ProSupport. Thank you.

@C321 You're welcome! I hope this helps.

@C321

Hi, I think I am on the same boat as you... I am like that too, as you described. Going to university and is having a hard time making friends... I am very awkward also, I think I can understand your feelings... It's scary and it's hard to know what you can do...

What I've found out is that being in a place that I can be myself and feel comfortable in can make me feel comfortable enough to talk to people being myself... It's not school for me, it's a job that I have... I think this could be being at home, or somewhere with your family or your 3 friends that you feel comfortable with..

.I also found that getting a job that forces me to talk to people helpful... like a cashier. Even if I don't do it well, by getting that job, the first step is cleared, which is the talking to someone. And I think this is a different kind of social interaction because you only say things that's not you, but I think it still helps... at least for me it did, some people even throw small talk at you and you kind of get an opportunity to kind of be yourself too... and even if you mess up, the period of talking is very short and it'll pass really quickly, and you might not ever meet them again. and then get another chance again and again... and sometimes it's hard to kind of continue for a long time but I think my experience was a nice one...

I hope that kind of helps!

@helpfulSugar9

Thank you very much for taking the time to read my long post and for the advice. Some of it is difficult to follow right now as i am most comfortable with my family and 3 high school friends and i am living 6 hours away from them right now and i dont really have time to get a job while at school if i want to maintain my grades. That being said i will definately try it when at home and hopefully use it to build my social skills and confidence.

@helpfulSugar9

Also all the best to you in your time at university. I hope you have met/will soon meet some good friends who accept your awkwardness and the rest of who you are

@C321

no problem! I'm glad I saw your post! I enjoyed sharing my experience. And I can understand your situation!! You're away from your friends and family, which means you can't do the first one, and the job thing!!! I didn't do that either last quarter and that's why I got good grades:( it's very very hard to work and get good grades at the same time!!! It's scary to feel like you're running out of time. And thank you for your kind words too! Yes, I really hope someone that accepts the quirky and awkward way I am pops up in the new university that I transferred too. I hope the same for you! :D