am i in the wrong?

@shadowmoonking Wow that sounds soooo annoying!

@shadowmoonking
Hello
That sounds really frustrating, to face regular interferences and disrespect of boundaries.

No, you are not in the wrong for maintaining your personal space, especially in regards to the counsellor. I want you to first know that revealing your conversations is not any obligation.

Being said, it would be better to ask the counsellor to talk to the people at home, and make them understand the importance and confidentiality of your conversations with the counsellor.

Hope you are able to work through this challenge!

@shadowmoonking

I am sorry to know what happened to you.You are not the one to be blame since you just want to have a personal space,and 15 minutes is really a short time so this should be respected.As for the counselling content,it should only be limited to you and the counsellor,so unless you are willing to tell, your family is not a part of it.

I agree with Piril. If you really fail to communicate with your family, you can asked for help from you counsellor, but bear in mind that you need to negotiate with the counselor first because they need to prepare for a meeting with your family.

If this still not work,I have two ideas but not sure if it works in your condition.First is to have your personal 15 minutes outside of your house if you find your family noisy. It can be spent in any place you are comfortable in.The second is to “fake it”when you are asked about the counselling sessions, so your family won’t notice that you are not telling them about your counselling experience.

I hope you feel better soon.

@shadowmoonking

Intrusive space of privacy would certainly add unwanted stress & anxiety. Their lack of respect for boundaries unveils inconsistency in their character(s). You have every right to access mental health, be it your counselor, 7 cups, and any resources available to you. You don't have to share your confidential information with outside interactions if you choose not to. If you are able, please take a moment of deep breaths and repeat several times. Only you can decide what you want or not to share. And that is okay. 

-inferno🔥

@shadowmoonking  Hi there, that sounds very frustrating, because privacy and time to ourselves are very sacred and important. I don't think you are in the wrong at all for needing that time to yourself. Maybe scheduling a time to talk with your family and your counselor could help them better understand why you need that time to yourself. I hope you work through this and get the privacy and time to yourself that you deserve!

Hello @shadowmoonking ! 

@shadowmoonking It sounds like you're facing a challenging situation at home. Setting boundaries and having dedicated time for yourself is important for your well-being, and it's understandable to feel frustrated when those boundaries are not respected. In this situation, it's essential to prioritize your mental health and continue to communicate your needs clearly to your family members. It's not unreasonable to expect privacy and uninterrupted time during your 15-minute sessions. You have the right to keep your discussions private. Here are some steps you could consider:

Clearly communicate to your family members why your 15-minute sessions are important to you and ask them to respect your need for privacy

Explore if there are alternative times or ways your family members can get your attention outside of your dedicated 15 minutes and try to plan accordingly

@shadowmoonkin

It sounds like you're trying to carve out some personal time at home, but it's been challenging with interruptions despite your efforts to set boundaries. Your counselor asked about your conversations, and you chose not to share, which seems to have caused some tension. It can be tough when your need for privacy isn't honored. Maybe discussing openly with your family about why this time is important to you could help find a solution where everyone feels respected and understood.

@shadowmoonking you mean you didn't tell your counsellor what you talked about with your family? Or vise versa. I'm so confused 

@shadowmoonking

Hi there! That does sounds like a frustrating matter to deal with! Boundaries are such an important thing in our lives and should be respected and adhered too, so I don't think you are in the wrong at all, you are wanting to keep your personal space your own and have that allocated time slot for yourself which is more than understandable!

I am sorry to hear this is happening to you and it might benefit to potentially ask your counsellor if there is anyway they could speak to the people at home, as if it comes from them, they possibly might listen and have a better understanding? Obviously, you do whatever feels right for you, but do not be afraid of telling people this. You are so in the right for reacting in the way you are, I completely understand! I hope this situation gets sorted and resolved soon!!