There is just so much

My brother is amputee has sleep issues and pain problems, and he wants alcohol and wants it now. He has heart issues so none of his doctors will give him any type of meds for pain or sleep. They said weed but they will not sign him for a medical weed card. Problem is glasses of alcohol are NOT enough, he needs bottle and if I deny, he goes to my mom and others. When he is drunk is either a wannabe know-it-all with no facts and rubs it in, or he has that drink one too much and either gets mean or passes out. He is going to get hurt, but denies he has a problem.

My family is stuck in a bad living situation . . . I have been researching but everyone is raising their rent. A friend offer us a to check out this place, but they are still working on it. It's been over a month.

My boyfriend's ex is trying to get back into his life. (He and I live 1200 miles away and he and ex live 800 miles away) She is trying to get back into his life and visit him knowing that he is happily going out with me. However if he tells her no and to go away, she plays the suicide card. She has attempted at least ten times and been brought back but doctors several times. Her grandma died last year and she has no one to hold her back, but she lack a maturity and empathy towards others. I try to be friends with her, but I feel like I'm dealing with a love-struck teenager.

The problem is she really hurt him breaking their relationship of three for a guy she knew six weeks. Then she pushed us together (I have always loved him as we had history. He and I are taking things very slow.) Now she is trying to weasel in. I believe she needs friends and support, but I think she needs to understand what she did to him. She shattered him, and he is still picking up the pieces. (I push therapy on both of them. I think they both need professional outlook on it.) She is trying to visit him first, but I do not feel deserves it as she it going to want to get emotional and physically intimate with him. (He and I made a promise that I have to get my family out of a bad living situation before we can meet up.)

I struggle to find work, because of my social anxiety (I am supper picky), my energy issue (severe sleep apnea), gout, and now my wrist are giving me trouble. My brother is currently the only income. (I'm not counting my uncle, because he wants to stay in the same town and we cannot even afford a one bedroom place in this town.)
I tried several times i get therapy or work online, I can't no privacy and I get family members constantly interrupting. Problem is with my anxiety i cannot live alone. I have a boyfriend but he live 1200 miles away taking care of his mom. There is not a meeting anywhere in sight as he made me promise not to see him until I get my family out of the bad living situation. However if it wasn't for him, I would have given in to my damn dark demons a long time ago.

I've tried to get SSI for my anxiety, but they want me on pills. I have had very bad experiences and I will NEVER go back to pills.

Baking is my one of my mediation, I have no kitchen.

Cats bring down my blood pressure and anxiety, but i cannot have one here.

Writing and coloring help me, but my wrist, specially right has been tingly and in extreme pain on my index, middle and ring finger and thumb. I think I have carpal tunnel.

I know I should go to a doctor, but they just sit and blame my weight. I'm afraid to see that I have full blown diabetes and they will push the insulin. I am 38 and I will NOT be addicted to man-made hormone all of my damn life. I cannot do Metaformin it kills my stomach and intestine.

I have no idea what to do.