Selective Mutism?
Didn't know where else to post this. I know what selective Mutism is, and I don't know that I have it. I can talk to just about anyone, most of the time. New people freak me out, I get really quiet, I mean just cannot get the words out. But some days are worse than others.
I think my problem has more to do with subject than person. I can't talk to people I'm close with about certain things. Again, physically cannot speak. It's become really frustrating the last few months because I'm in a new relationship. I can't say no when I dontd want sex, I can't ask my boyfriend not to do things that bother me. I get hot and tearful if I try, my head starts spinning, and my mouth won't open for me.
I dunno what this issue is or how to deal with it. He knows I have trouble communicating, and he is as aware as he can be - but it's hard for him to know when it's happening. I mean, sometimes I work so well against myself I'll even encourage him, just to make sure my attitude is agreeable and I'm not showing what I'm thinking. It's...a problem.
I can relate in it, but its commun with my condition (im autistic). I can hardly speak about some topics, but is easy to get talking on my favorite topics or passions. When I meet new people. I'm too stressed for talk about anything, but slowly learn to use my topics for breaking the ice. and I think we can learn to live with our condition and find coping strategies for minimize the effects of it.
@TortueDesBois
It sucks so much. It sucks more because I just can't read people, I think. I can't interpret common social phrases thrown at me or gestures or whatever, and then I dunno if they notice my behavior or not.
How are you?? How are you coping with this?
@indigoJet762 social behaviors are hard to interpret sometimes but its something we learn by observe interactions, either on our chatroom, forums, or in support groups offline. After a few years coming here on 7cups. i started the support groups offline, thing i would never have considered before. communication disorders are things we can develop skills. for compensate. it takes times and effort and sometimes professional help
@TortueDesBois I know it will take time. Thank you for your kind response ^^ just gets so frustrating, feels hopeless a lot of the time. I do hope things get better!
@indigoJet762 do you have other ways to communicate such write or something?
Hello ,have you overcome it ? I have the same problem and am desperate for help
P take therapy for it therapy sessions you can easily find it online which you can affordate or you can also take online tests do they are not accurate but still they help you a lot how is your try finding researching information about it and try CBT techniques which are available on Google
@indigoJet762 the more i got older the more i realized i did this as well! i’ve realized how quiet i’ve gotten and how loud i can be with the ones i’m comfortable with. sometimes you just don’t want to talk. talking feels like it takes so much energy! i wonder where this stems from. truly a fascinating thing to research.
@indigoJet762 this really sounds like it’s taking a physical toll on you. i’m so sorry. i know advice isn’t really helpful sometimes but have you considered taking time to yourself? writing down what you need to say to others? these are things others need to hear. your boundaries are going unnoticed. please take care of yourself. you’re important and deserve to be taken care of. we’re always here to support you and listen. keep us updated.
