Roommate ignores travel ban
Hey again,
so last year in December I traveled to Canada and moved into this room a girl rented out because she was traveling as well. I didn't plan on staying here this long but after the lockdown I was kind of stuck but glad to be able to stay after she returned home as well. We still don't know each other very well but got along so far.
She told me a lot about her boyfriend who lives in New York and how much she misses him. Two days ago she told me she had booked a flight to the US on Saturday and she is going to try and cross the border even though it's closed. Apperantly it's possible when you go by plane.. Anyways, she's going to come back 10 days later and since the travel ban got extended to the end of July for now, she will have to self-isolate. And I will have to do that too.
Not only am I going to have to cancel my shifts at work, but I will also be stuck in this small little room for 14 days (again..). I still don't feel at home here and just thinking about being locked in like this again gives me anxiety.
I have been falling asleep and waking up shaking the past few days but I don't know what to do.. I can't tell her to stay out of her own apartment afterall and I can't expect my friend to let me stay at his house for 2 weeks either.. I feel trapped and everything feels out of control..
Anyone have ideas on how to get through this? I'm at a loss.. I can only hope they will turn her away..
@Nessa1402 I think the best you can do is observe masks, handeashing and encourage her to do so too if she gets into NY. Talk about it before she leaves.
@selfconfidentMelon5824
Thank you so much for your answer. Yes, you're right. I will talk to her again when I get the chance.. And my biggest problem is the quarantine after, I think..
@Nessa1402 There are quite a few AirBNBs or even campsites open if that's your thing. I would talk to your roommate and consider one of you staying somewhere temporarily during the quarantine period. If you go elsewhere, I think she should cover at least half (assuming similar financial situations) as she's choosing to fly internationally. Just be prepared to extend it, as she may need to be in isolation after the quarantine if she does get sick. Another thing to check is your workplace, if they would prefer you to be working they may help cover a short term stay somewhere.
There is a good chance she will just be turned away though, people have been turned away for more important things than visiting a significant other.
@AffyAvo
Thank you so much for your answer!
I have thought about the airbnb thing and talking to my boss.. Airbnb would cost me almost my months rent for 2 weeks and I'm scared to talk to my boss about it.. I like your approach and I will definitely think it over though.
Thanks again! Stay safe.
@Nessa1402 i'm going through a similar situation. my roommate is thinking of coming back from where she's staying at currently.
remind your roommate about the situation, make sure she has a mask, social distance if she can. talk about how her travelling will affect you also, especially with work.
@whispersbrave
Thank you for your reply! I'm sorry you have to go though something similar.. It's so stressful to think of who they might be exposed to, because it's out of your control..
And you're right, I will try and find a bunch of cleaning products and definitely ask her to always wipe down high touch surface areas before and after using them, like in the kitchen and bathroom and door handles.. And of course I will do that too
@Nessa1402 the timing is weird because she had left in february before the pandemic got worse. she's a family friend also and she's senior citizen so she's retired and went back to her home country for an extended visit. i got word from the other relative i live with saying that she's thinking of coming back because 'she's bored' due to the fact that she can't go out there. the rules here are a bit more lax but apply the same way. we've been trying to tell her we can't go out here to malls because it's closed. we have another situation regarding living arrangements that will just make things confusing for our landlord.
people are stubborn during these times, but i think if they realize how serious it is, they will be more careful. i think your roommate will understand eventually. (:
