Relationship and trust issues

Hi everyone! Its been a while since I had posted on here. Anyways Ive been with my husband for almost two years and recently we got a home about half a year ago after living on base for 7 months. He is a member of the Army.

My husband has been in the process of trying to transition (male to female) so he has been going through a lot of emotional issues. He has been off estrogen for about three years and has been really stressed out with our home and bills. Well I dont know if it was wrong for me or not but I put some restraints on him when we first got married; I asked him to stop smoking and drinking.

Last month I caught him looking at porn, and I questioned him about it. He said that he does it because he is having testosterone spikes from when he was on testosterone suppressants for so long. He also said its because we dont get much time together and Im not always around when he wants to have sex. I asked him to promise me that he would stop looking or I would put our marriage on the line. (I grew up with a heavy Christian background, so Im not sure if that was right or me to put that).

Anyways he promised but then I caught him looking again. He said it is because he cant stop himself during the time because the urge is so strong. He also said its because he cant deal that well with my eating and bipolar disorder. After the other day he said he wouldnt again. He said he doesnt see what the big deal is about porn, and its not like he is cheating on me.

Ive been pretty depressed about it. Thankfully am on vacation right now but have just been spending most of my time in bed. I feel bad because my parents are here visiting and I really want to bring it up to them but I dont want to cause an issue. My husband suggested we go to marriage counseling. Is it wrong for me to see porn as bad?