I don't know what to do about this certain issue, advice will be much appreciated.

Hey,

So, i dont know if the same persons will read this post (since this one and my first one is linked to the same problem) but right now i would like some advice from anyone. This post is basically about a same 'crush issue' I have been facing.

To sum everything up -I wrote about my 'crush' problem in my first thread- I have a crush, he likes me and vice versa. We've been hanging out for a few months in real life and for a awhile over text and since we go to different schools, we strictly text over phone now. I have stated in a previous thread that I tend to overthink A LOT, to the point where i start to think irrationally and to the point where it affects me and causes me to be distressed.

So for these few weeks we have been talking. Everything is still great between us. Although I've still been overthinking, it's not as bad as bad as before (at least I think)

So now onto my problem... my crush (we are not bf and gf yet, we are still testing things out) has recently told me hes been thinking about taking me out on a date sometime soon. Of course, I'm thrilled about this but i cant help but feel scared and just not prepared. I don't go out often, my parents hardly let me go out by myself (which is ridiculous since I'm ALMOST young adult ). I've only been out ONCE by myself which was with my friends. The other time, they stayed with me. Because I hardly go out by myself, I feel this has affected the way I am. Why I'm soo anxious, why I overthink. My mother tells me she doesnt want me out alone because, 'sexual trafficking is rampant' and I might get kidnapped. I understand her concerns but I'm growing up and I have to do things on my own. But now, how am I supposed to do that if I have always been pampered and babied and I'm now too scared to go out into the world.

My crush thought that it would be simple for me to go out with him but I had to explain that my parents are 'overprotective'. My mother has stated she doesn't care if Im going out with a friend. She would still not trust them since anything can happen and if anything were to happen, she cannot do anything since she says my friends may say that they dont know what happened to me (if I were taken away). I havent told my parents about my crush yet and I'll have to. If we are to go out then my parents will know about him anyway (since they would be the one transporting to and from the date and anywhere I go). He's also stated if it's okay we go on a double date, but I dont know how to feel about that.

In social issues I tend to be very anxious. The time I went out with my friends and my parents were there, I felt soo uncomfortable (in the social setting, not my parents being there) mainly because it was a dancing event and I cant dance (well, I refuse to because although I never dance, I just think I cant), I just went there to hang with my friends. I felt so uncomfortable and I just stood still on the dance floor while my friends danced and had fun. I had no fun that day. I felt miserable, my heart was racing and I felt like I wanted to cry. I tried going to the bathroom to cry but I couldn't let it out (although there was a moment where someone said something not very funny and i ended up laughing and crying hysterically for some reason and my friends had to ask if I was alright and of course I said yes), it wasnt until I left and got home that I could let it out. I promised myself that evening that I would never go to that event again.

My parents are one obstacle to get through if I am to go on this date, but the next is actually GOING OUT on it. I'm afraid that what if I am miserable again? What if I ruin this date and he doesnt want to talk to me again? What if I feel the sudden urge to cry and just make a fool out of myself . I HAVE NEVER BEEN ON A DATE BEFORE, not even a double date with other people i dont know. I don't know the first thing to do on a date, heck, I sometimes think I'm walking the wrong way, standing the wrong way, talking the wrong way, eating the wrong way in public or even just making a wrong face. If I'm going to make a good impression to those who are coming on this double date, how do I do that?

I want to tell him about how I feel about this certain thing but I'm afraid too, that he will probably think of me in a weird way. I can kind of tell he's an extrovert and is cool with going out since he's mentioned he's gone out with friends many times before . I, on the other hand am not very "chill" as him.

Right now I feel very worried and I've told him that I'm very sorry about this situation but he's said that it's okay and that its not my fault and we can figure something out and that I shouldnt worry my head about it. But I just dont know....

How do I go around explaining this to my parents who are NOT that keen with me going out (especially since this would be my first time going out with a guy). And if I do, how can NOT ruin the date?

Any advice will be much appreciated.

Thank you and have a good day/night

~I apologize for any grammatical errors