How to deal with bad regrets?
Every day I'm mostly alright until I'm about to go to bed. Then I seems like my worst regrets in life flood back to me and I feel awful. Even if some were so long ago I don't know how to let go of them or if there's any way I feel like I could ever make amends for what happened then. What can I do?
I feel the same way. I think about tiny things from when I was a freshman in high school which was 2013 . Always thinking about what could have said or why would I say something so stupid . I cry myself to sleep sometimes thinking about stuff like that. I don’t how to stop it but I got to remember that it happened and it’s done with. Can’t stop it bc it already happened. Everyone has a point they would wish to go back to moments like that and change it. We are human and we all do things we wish wish didn’t do or say. If it’s something terrible you think you did like bullying someone or say something awful, message that person that you are sorry. They don’t have to accept it but YOU said what you thought you did wrong and owned up to it. Knowing that will help and make the stress of it go away. Knowing you have regrets of something makes you a better person than not having any regrets of anything in my opinion. I know this wasn’t any help on how to deal with it but I believe you are a good person and you will figure out how to move on from the things and leave the past in the past
@bunnygarden
hi, I am so sorry you have to go something like this. You must be so strong to be actively seeking help about it. I want to tell you that in life, there are no regrets, just lessons and blessings. if you see your decisions with a "half glass full" perspective then you'll be able to appreciate your journey and struggles that you have been through. Healing takes time and you will be fine.
Also as I have been in this situation, I can tell that indulging in meditation at night will help you get a good night's sleep and will wake you up fresh. You can also try journaling about it, it really helps venting out. I hope you feel better. Take Care.
@bunnygarden I feel that too. Except I'm hunted by my regrets all day and it got to a point where I feel physical pain whenever I get stuck with it (which is often). But it's not exactly tiny things, I feel like I failed with myself and don't know what to do. It gets easier if you start trying exercises to forgive yourself and hold on until that feel passes. Hope you find peace friend.