Hi... My Story I Guess (I don
Hi, you guys can call me Sophia. Ive never been diagnosed anything. Im probably just overreacting, but a bunch of my friends are pushing me to get a therapist so here I am. My story:
I have two friends, well call them Suzy and Bob for privacy matters. Suzy has been my best friend for years, but lately Ive been noticing Im not really open to her for fear of her critiscm. Now, Bob comes along and Bob used to be her crush. She doesnt like Bob anymore. Bob becomes our friend and we hang out a lot. A lot of rumors fly around that there is stuff happening between two if us. Me and Bob, Suzy and Bob, vice versa. Well, Bob comes out and says he likes Suzy. All of the sudden, Im being pushed away as the popular girl decides to involve herself and I dont matter. Apparently I mean nothing to Suzy. I dont really get what happened. Was I not good enough, not cool enough? I started to hang out with these girls that are a grade older than me. They like hanging out with me, and I like hanging out with them. I find myself constantly looking around to see if my grade is staring at me since they dont like these girls, and they said I might have anxiety. So here I am, getting help and reaching out. My parents cant know, since my mom is really pushy and shell keep pushing until I probably explode. Then I get yelled at for being rude. Theres my pitiful story. Hope I dont seem lame.
@SomeoneWhoJustNeedsAcceptance
Hello! I'm going to respond to this from a perspective of having already been a teen (been there, done that!) and as a mom to a teen. First - don't worry about what other people think. If you have friends you like to hang out with, that's great. Who cares what your grade-level peers think? They don't have to like them. They don't have to hang out with them.
Everyone has friends that don't necessarily all hang out together. I had completely different sets of friends in high school - if they had all gotten together in a room, it would have been ugly. :) But separately, I could hang out with each of them and it was cool.
I know it's hard to not care what everyone is thinking about you. Especially in high school. There is SO much judging going on there. As you get older, you'll start to care less and less about other people's opinions of who you hang out with, and what you want to do with your life. But right now, enjoy the friends you have.
Now for the mom perspective. Moms are worriers. We worry about our kids constantly. I'm pretty sure I worry about my teen son while I'm sleeping! :) We want to help, to fix things, and to make things better. We're nurturers and protectors. (Okay, maybe not every mom, but most moms are.) And we do tend to get pushy because we hate when you're feeling bad. When you feel bad, we feel bad. So when we ask "How was your day?" and you respond with a flat "Fine" and walk away, we freak out, have a million things going through our head about what's wrong, and then we start to get pushy, asking more and more questions - which of course irritates the heck out of you.
We Moms have to learn to just offer our support, ask limited questions, and just be there to listen and nod our heads. We so want to help and make everything better, but we know you're growing up into adults and you don't want to share everything with us, and are trying to figure things out on your own. It's hard for us though!