Emotionally distant/immature parents
Hi everyone! Ive never posted here before, but I joined 7cups because Im discovering more and more of the personality quirks, anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, and relationship dynamics I have are a result of not only losing my parents as a child, but being raised by my grandma and my step grandpa who are emotionally distant, and emotionally immature. (My Step grandpa being the worse of the two, being very emotionally immature, narcissistic, and emotionally abusive.)
Im slowly realizing how all of this has made me the constantly worrying and anxious person I am today. Having very emotionally uninvolved parents made me very independent, which in some ways Im glad because Im happy where I am now- but I also lack the bonding skills people get from having a healthy relationship with family growing up. Im very uncomfortable with women, being around family dynamics, and have a not great track record in choosing emotionally mature men in my romantic relationships.
I donno, Im just kind of putting this out there and wondering if anyone else has been raised by emotionally distant or immature parents, how the think its affected them, and how theyre trying to get past these things today.
Im also reading a couple of books if anyone is interested.
All the best ❤️