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Birthday Lunch

redpill March 11th, 2017

My Birthday was in December. I'm 40, and I don't expect a whole lot from my mom. Since December at least once a week mom my has called to say. I want to have lunch with you for your birthday, but ... It's become a running joke with me and my wife. At the end of the week my wife will ask, "So, has your mom called to say she's not taking you to lunch this week?" The answer's always yes.

This Friday she finally broke down and called to say she would meet me at a steakhouse she has a coupon for at 12:30. She wanted to bring my niece also.

Before lunch, my mom and my niece got into a fight and they didn't show up until 1:30. I wanted to go to the driving range after lunch to kill some time before picking up my kids from school. The later she got the less likely that was going to happen.

When they showed up my niece was in tears. I tried to defuse the situation and just get through lunch. My mom was snapping at the waiter. I gently asked her to be a little nicer to the waiter. She got irrate and said she should just leave if she's not even allowed to even talk. She settled down, and I just wanted to get over with this.

She then handed me my birthday present. I opened a envelope a found 10 $5 Starbucks gift certificates inside. She explained Starbucks had a deal where they would give you a $5 certificate for buying a bag of coffee. So, she bought 10 bags of coffee for herself and saved the gift cards for me. $50 of Starbucks gift cards isn't exactly unwelcome. But, it's still an odd way to come up with a gift. I happy when it was finally over, even though it was too late to go to the driving rage. At least I don't have to have another call her to say l, "I want to take you to lunch, but ..."

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optoutside March 11th, 2017

@redpill Aww, is this the lunch you were referring to in the check in thread? Sounds like you were really put to the test!! Even though it was a while ago, happy belated birthday!!! Your mom sounds like a very stressful person to be around, it seems like it was a disappointing lunch. <3 When I am disappointed like that with my mom I try to remember even though she doesn't care how I would like her to, she still cares in her own way and I'm sure tries the best she can. It's still hurtful but it helps ease it a little. :) I'm sorry you didn't get to go to the driving range, I hope you get an opportunity in the near future to treat yourself!

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redpill OP March 11th, 2017

@optoutside

I see what your saying. She is trying to do something nice. It's hard to appreciate that when her doing something nice is so aggravating I'd rather she not do anything at all. Thanks for the perspective, opt.

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