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PathStep 47 Compassion hearts55 Forum posts37 Forum upvotes45 Current upvotes45 Age GroupAdult Last activeAugust, 2020 Member sinceMarch 6, 2017
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I'm in my 40's. I'm married and a father of 2. I've been dealing with anxiety most of my life. I'm looking for better ways to deal with this anxiety.
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Looking for support, Anxiety and Depression
General Support / by redpill
Last post
 July 23rd, 2018
...See more I've been dealing with anxiety and depression. I'm in my 40's. I have a very stressful marriage. I'm on meds now. So, that's been helping. But, I don't have any real social interactions, and anxiety keeps me from being able to connect with others.
Nature vs Nurture
Anxiety Support / by redpill
Last post
 March 16th, 2017
...See more Where does this anxiety come from? Did I inherit it? Are my kids doomed to the same fate? Or was it my environment growing up? Maybe if I give my kids a better childhood than I had, they won't have to deal with these kinds of problems. My family is insane, and I'm often embarrassed when someone has to deal with any of them. I don't apologize for them anymore. I just try to warn people in advance, but more often than not most people think I may be exaggerating. But, then there's always that one experience when they see what I was warning them about. Anyone that's known me for any length of time has found out that my family is absolutely nuts. And, I'm probably the most level headed and sane out of all of them. I'm certainly the only one that has kept a job and is doing ok for the most part. I've stopped communication with my sister a few years back. She's a meth addict, and uses people on a professional level. My mom has no self control and will throw tantrums in public. My dad was a suicide. I could mention my sister's kids, but I sympathize with them. So, I don't know. Having all consuming anxiety isn't so bad compared to the rest of my family. How much of it will get passed on to my kids, and their kids, and so on? I guess time will tell.
Birthday Lunch
Anxiety Support / by redpill
Last post
 March 11th, 2017
...See more My Birthday was in December. I'm 40, and I don't expect a whole lot from my mom. Since December at least once a week mom my has called to say. I want to have lunch with you for your birthday, but ... It's become a running joke with me and my wife. At the end of the week my wife will ask, "So, has your mom called to say she's not taking you to lunch this week?" The answer's always yes. This Friday she finally broke down and called to say she would meet me at a steakhouse she has a coupon for at 12:30. She wanted to bring my niece also. Before lunch, my mom and my niece got into a fight and they didn't show up until 1:30. I wanted to go to the driving range after lunch to kill some time before picking up my kids from school. The later she got the less likely that was going to happen. When they showed up my niece was in tears. I tried to defuse the situation and just get through lunch. My mom was snapping at the waiter. I gently asked her to be a little nicer to the waiter. She got irrate and said she should just leave if she's not even allowed to even talk. She settled down, and I just wanted to get over with this. She then handed me my birthday present. I opened a envelope a found 10 $5 Starbucks gift certificates inside. She explained Starbucks had a deal where they would give you a $5 certificate for buying a bag of coffee. So, she bought 10 bags of coffee for herself and saved the gift cards for me. $50 of Starbucks gift cards isn't exactly unwelcome. But, it's still an odd way to come up with a gift. I happy when it was finally over, even though it was too late to go to the driving rage. At least I don't have to have another call her to say l, "I want to take you to lunch, but ..."
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