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my boyfriend just broke up with me because I was extremely toxic we would fight practically every day because I don't know how to control my feelings. I would constantly guilt trip him without realizing or meaning to. I never truly listened to what he said and if he did I would go to my problems or I would not fix the problem. I was controlling and constantly worried he wasn't safe because of my truama and anxiety to the point I was constantly asking if he was okay and never wanted him to leave. the day after he broke up with me I asked if he would let me change and told him I was listening and he said this is your final chance to change and Im blocking you until you do. so I'm working on changing. its kinda weird that I'm pushing myself to change after we broke up but he was kinda holding me back to where I couldn't. I'm really trying to change now. does any one have any ideas on how I can change it would help a lot I know it takes time and that everything will work I just need a little help. have a great day!
Hey forcefulShip, sending love your way. Breakups are never fun and it sounds like there was a lot of other stuff going on too! 💙
But in my own experience, I’ve been able to push myself to change for the better after things ended. No matter what happens, growth and healing is good for you! First you need to identify how you want to change. Imagine what kind of person YOU want to be. And then start small. Then think of small things you could practice to become more like that. Gradually work your way up to harder things. My humble, non-expert advice.
Hi so my ex I was talking about before I think ended up playing me. In between the 2 times we dated he like another girl lets Charlotte. and I was talking to one of mine and my ex's nuetral friend and we ended up bringing up that I thought he liked our neutral friend. Well the she texted my ex to ask who he liked and he said Charlotte. So now I'm blaming myself for these prophetic dreams since I was 4. Those dreams sometimes were prophetic but most weren't but when I was 4 I fell head over heels in love with my ex. I know everything happens for a reason I'm just so confused and cant figure out the reason for this. Since I was 4 I've been planning my future with my ex and now its gone and I'm more lonely then ever (that's saying something). So ya, I'll take any advice right now Â