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Why is this me

User Profile: ImAware
ImAware October 21st, 2024

Why can't I do things right? I'm so lost with what my purpose is in this moment... why is my anxiety so bad that it is triggered randomly with no cause of distressed emotion? Why is my reaction to that a like type seizure? Why do all my vitamins drop randomly? I can't even meet new people without having to feel like vomiting and I can't keep up a with my hobbies anymore.. today my mum asked me one time to make dinner. Simple schnitzels and mashed potatoes but I forgot the mashed potatoes and I needed to cook one more schnitzel after I cleaned waiting for them to come n eat. I can't even make a simple dinner. Not long ago I over heard my mum saying she feels I'm not ready for marriage and that's the only thing that was keeping me up you know I'm so useless and fragile and so so troubled with built up trauma my mum can't see me living a life of my own independence with a family of my own.. and as a girl that's my nightmare.. I'm 21 and hearing her say im not ready honestly broke me and I'm not mad at her that she said that I'm mad because it's true. why dose this have to be the way I am?

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User Profile: Mya000
Mya000 October 23rd, 2024

@ImAware I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, and I just want to say that you’re not alone in this struggle. It sounds like you’re going through so much right now, and it’s overwhelming when anxiety, trauma, and self-doubt all hit at once. The pressure to be perfect or meet certain expectations, especially from family, can feel crushing.


It's okay that things feel hard right now. Anxiety and trauma can make even the simplest tasks feel like mountains, and forgetting something like mashed potatoes doesn't define your worth or capability. You are not useless, even if it feels that way at times. You’re dealing with a lot, and that takes strength—sometimes, just getting through the day is a win in itself.

As for your mom’s comment, it’s understandable that it hurt, especially when it aligns with your own fears. But, growth takes time, and just because you're struggling now doesn’t mean you won’t be ready in the future. You deserve kindness and patience as you work through your challenges, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time.

Please don’t be too hard on yourself. You are not defined by your struggles or your mistakes, and things can get better ❤️
User Profile: Emeraldcat99
Emeraldcat99 October 23rd, 2024

@ImAware what is your background? Religion? Heritage? 21 is not old by any means, and you never know who your going to meet untell you meet them. If you throw up so throw up it could be a unique ice breaker. It's not up to your mother to deside if your marriage  material. There is someone for everyone.