Rage against and in my family
I developed a bad habit when my son was a baby, during peripartum depression/anxiety. I often felt like my husband wouldn’t listen to me and kept talking over me. I would become enraged and scream at him. It worked to get him to stop talking at me. Now I lose my temper often. He pushes pushes pushes me and I swallow it swallow it swallow it, responding calmly until finally it explodes out. I’ve learned to feel it coming and manage to make the words polite, but I scream it without intending to. I feel out of control. My son has picked up the behavior and yells at people who try to help him, even at kids in kindergarten. It’s awful that he’s doing it too. I’m trying to stop, but I don’t know how. I’m trying to figure out whether some kind of boundary will help, but I don’t know what it would be.
@passionatePlum5972
It is hard to see if a child picks up a bad habit.... I have done this also ..
it is not helpful in long run but sometimes feels like it is the only way we get our point across... i too feel it coming on and i take a break right then ... tell the person like my partner that i will snap and say things we might both regret.... It is important to get spouse on board as this came about from bad communication skills that your child is now mirroring.
since helping child is a common goal between you that is a point to start the path to better communication.
Thanks for being so honest about this issue. Anger is also a problem in my family and I've looked into what to do about it. Here is a list of anger management classes, which may be useful to you:
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/anger-management-classes-online
They all cost some amount of money, but it should be worthwhile if they can help you or your family reduce anger. Also , 7Cup has a course (free) on dealing with emotions, which may also be helpful:
https://www.7cups.com/listener/training/#training
I think reaching out is a great first step. If you need to talk, feel free to reach out to me. Or we have many great listeners on this site.
@walkalot
This is the managing emotions course on 7cups:
https://www.7cups.com/help-managing-emotions/
And these are all of our courses:
https://www.7cups.com/listener/training/courses/
(available to all members and listeners).
