@ram7474 Yeah, feel this pretty hard.
I had an issue growing up where I was into cringe interests (I guess like every teen) but my mother was vocal about not approving of things I enjoyed. It made me feel bad about liking what I did, but I still liked it, so I just either didn't talk about it or hid it unless I was with friends with similar interests.
Maybe that's part of why I'm so selective in what people see of me, but it also means I've had a long streak of just being whatever I had to be to rock the least amount of boats all the way through to my adulthood. I hate disapproval and I hate that in itself, but I just can't help it. And the easiest way for no one to disapprove is for there to be nothing to you to disapprove of, or at least nothing that you'll actually take personally. For example, I get teased about a bunch of stuff, but it's minor stuff that I teased myself about first in order to target other people to that and not to stuff that will actually hurt my feelings. Like I can't reveal any actual human flaws because it becomes too confusing the second people cut through the shell.
But yeah, I take a look at my life and I don't know what I want. I don't want anything. Because I never have wanted anything other than to make it through my days with the least amount of hassle possible, and the easiest way to do that was to make myself whatever would fit that mould. I work but for what? I don't care too much about getting a house alone, I can't and don't really want to have a relationship, I won't ever have a family or kids, and I could give or take my own family... But I just act as whatever I'm supposed to be the most in each circle I operate in - friends, family, professional etc.
Everyone seems to have a reason to do what they do, but I dunno. It gets hard to find one when you feel like you've been weaving into whatever space you had to for a while.
That's a problem I'm looking for a solution to, at the moment. Hopefully you'll find something too.