Anxiety
Hello everyone, i want just to tell you how i feel lately, i just started two weeks ago an Internship for my thesis. This means i was introduced in a completely new environment at one time: both colleagues of work and other internship guys. With the others guys i have lunch every day and we also go out at nights, the thing Is that i feel very anxious into talking when we are in group so i remain quiet and just listen to others' conversations, i feel that i am not able to join the conversations because i have nothing to add and this makes me very sad because i feel out of the group. This also looks weird for the guys because i never talk when we are in group. This doesn't happen if we are just 3/4 because generally they include me more into the conversation. I really don't know how to get out of it. Just wanted to tell someone..
@thoughtfulPlum2097 Starting something new, especially an internship, can be so overwhelming, and it’s completely okay to feel anxious in those group settings. It sounds like you’re doing your best to navigate this, and it’s great that you feel more included in smaller groups. Maybe with time, as you get more comfortable, it will get easier to join the bigger conversations. Take your time—there’s no rush to jump into conversations, and sometimes just being present is enough. You’re doing great! 💛
Totally get it! Meeting new people and starting conversation can be awkward and stressful, but it doesn’t have to be that way! When you are in these situations sometimes it can feel like you’re being excluded and no one cares what you have to say, but that is rarely the case. Most times we attribute silence to a specific archetype. What I mean by this is when we notice someone not talking in a group, us humans tend to interpret that as someone who might be more reserved or quiet. I have been in settings in which it was hard to break into a group conversation, it wasn’t cause they disliked me, we just weren’t discussing a topic of common ground. I find it helpful to just try and start a topic of conversation that I find interesting/personal. This allows them to know that you have something to say which will most likely motivate them to include you in the future.