Hope and perseverance is starting to make a difference.
After YEARS of alcoholism, my husband has said that he is ready for rehab. This does not.come without so many painful memories and missed opportunities and every other terrible thing alcohol brought to our lives. 24 days ago I couldn't take it any longer, and I told him I wanted my own bank account because we weren't going to make it together and I needed to get myself situated for such a big decision. He got WASTED that night, and drove himself home and passed out in the running vehicle. He had no clue how he got home or how long he'd been there and I was livid. He could have very well.died that night or killed someone else. The next day I told him about it and he was like whaaaat? He literally had no idea any of it even happened. Today I've been searching for rehab centers. I pray for all of you who are struggling as a bystander of alcohol abuse. I can't give advice because it's not.one size fits all, but I can tell u to pray hard for the addict in your life and for yourself. Its not easy being in this role. Keep praying.
@gregariousTortoise8500 It certainly is not easy dealing with such a struggle. Thank you for reaching out about your own personal experiences and also for giving words of hips as well.
@gregariousTortoise8500 I am in the midst of struggling with my husbands alcoholism. He will not even admit he has a problem. Our marriage is close to ending. I am going through a dark time myself. But I am praying for you and glad that your husband has accepted help. I pray one day I can say the same thing.
When they say its a process, it really truly is. It is vicious. As a wife we feel obligated to fix the problem. I can say that while they're the ones going through addiction and turmoil, we're the ones that take the brunt of their decisions. I lost count of how many nights I've cried myself to sleep, or apologized for his behavior, or tried to rationalize it to my own self. It was only this past year that I started to grasp that it is solely their problem, and if they don't want to change then they won't. It was madness seeing him carry on like it wasn't the most destructive problem in our life. I know the pain of your situation very well, and I will absolutely put you in my prayers and send good vibes to you and your family.
