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Self gratification, p***, online interaction

CatDaddy60 July 1st

I'm new to 7 Cups and wasn't sure they would be a group appropriate for the issue I'm struggling with which you can see in the title. Nonetheless I can see by some of the threads here that there are others that struggle in the same way I've been better at times but things have crap back into my life where I feel like a compulsive behavior that I often have described as an addiction trying to take hold of me again

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Tinywhisper11 July 2nd

@CatDaddy60 I see you wrote a thread and opened up a bit ❤ well done I'm really proud of you. Yes there are many people in here struggling with this addiction. I don't generally answer this sort of post, cause I don't really know how to help others with this. But your an exception and 'm rooting for you all the way ❤  how bad is the addiction? And how desperate do you wanna quit? Or don't you want to quit? I'd like to support you if I can ❤ hugs you tightly ❤

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CatDaddy60 OP July 2nd

@Tinywhisper11 Thanks for the encouragement.  Can we chat in Pen Pals, maybe a bit more discreet to share some hard things?

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Tinywhisper11 July 3rd

@CatDaddy60 I just set up a place for us ❤

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Helgafy July 4th

@CatDaddy60

I think addiction is hard to fight by yourself. Why don't you see a therapist. There are also therapists at 7Cups but I think to see one in real life would be better for you. Then you also could be in a group with persons with addiction in their behavior I think.

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CatDaddy60 OP July 4th

Hello Helga, thank you for taking time to reply. Yes it is hard to grapple by yourself which is a strange paradoxical thing. I have to be careful with interactions online because I will try to sexualize them. I may start out meaning well but I know that I can drift into manipulation to try to get some gratification out of it. That was one of the things that developed over time from an innocent 14 year old boy looking at magazines to the internet age that open the opportunity for all kinds of behavior. I did see a therapist in person once but was largely unsatisfied by the experience plus I have had gotten shaking so badly by being caught in some behavior that I was able to walk a generally positive path. That was 10 years ago and This Owen is has reared his head again.

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Helgafy July 4th

@CatDaddy60

Friend - thank you for writing - as long as you wish to be here around us! Tiny is a wonderful young women. But I have never been in contact with anybody being so conflicted as she.
You'll not succeed in sexualizing either sweet Tiny or me. I'm too old (71 lol!) and I'll tell you a bit about Tiny. I think she doesn't mind at all - she's the most open person we have here at 7Cups. She was living in a sect and she was a victim of prostitution from when she was 4 years old until she was 18. They were also tortured in a room and they made videos from that. At a young age she gave birth to a wonderful, perfect baby boy with blue eyes. They let her keep him for 1 day and 1 night and then they killed him - she watched.  They destroyed her spine; she had to amputate her both legs at the knees and 2 fingers at each hand. She has no feelings in her body from waist down. I just wanted to tell you a bit of the phorn industry - the victoms behind it. She was rescured by a group when she was 18 and went from USA to Wales in England.

I looked up Owen - meaning "from a nice family" or "son of a god" - lol - well i guess you meant something like "bad things have happened again". 
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Helgafy July 5th

@CatDaddy60
@Tinywhisper11

Hi cat and Tiny.

3 fine verses from the Bible for us today:

Exodus 14:14 NLT "

The LORD himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.”


Philippians 3.13: "but this one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to
what lies ahead"
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CatDaddy60 OP July 5th

Thank you helga, this one was in the devotion for today in The Upper Uoom:


Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you

Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)


The part that isn't in there, which is the part I'm struggling with is to forgive myself. I'm getting better at that. Nonetheless, for those that I have struggled to forgive I'm trying to get better at as well. All parts of the healing that has to go on.

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Tinywhisper11 July 5th

@CatDaddy60 fogivness towards our selves and others is very hard. Mixed up with the emotions of shame and self blame, forgivness towards myself is what I need to learn. Maybe oneday ❤

Helgafy July 5th

@CatDaddy60

Yes - many persons here at 7Cups have trouble in forgiving themselves and others. I can understand that if the world has been very hard for/with them. But we're all are loved by God/Jesus Christ. He bore the punishment of our sins on himself on the cross so that we can be free from guilt, shame and love ourselves.. So we're united with the Holy one.


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Tinywhisper11 July 5th

@Helgafy thanks helgafy ❤ those bible quotes made me smile🙂❤ and I'm always striving to move forward. It's not easy but I have God in my corner ❤ and I have you ❤❤

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