Gaming addiction
(This is the closest thread (forum) I see for this topic, if you think this post should be in other area pleace help me move it , thanks )
I have been with depression, anxiety and many other issues, cause of a super agresive manipulative father, and a gold digger mother who wants to fix me by giving me money., so lately I tend to wast money a little bit, although I am not working, I bought myself a gaming pc desktop, and other things, well I try not to waste money, but I buy what I think I use the most. Most of my life I wasted my life on mostly gaming, most of my life I had been having a super immature child, I am almost 40 and still behave like a child in many things, well mainly cause of not working, and my lack of present social interactions, and trying to escape my problems with gaming. I find life outside the computer in my country super boring, and repetitive for the most part, or at least that is how it feels now.
I found help on this 7cups comunity, but there are many times when many of the chats just become a distraction, cause there are many people with different problems, and the focus of the chat tends to change a lot, and many times I feel like people dont listen to me, depending on the chat and how many people are there and who is on the chat at that time. I know that many of the rules are tend to keep people feeling safe, but many times some of the swering rules and other rules of not being able to talk like normal adults makes me feel like I am being treated like a child/ unconfortable. .
I know my addiction will still be there until I do work on it to change it and being active and changing my gaming habbits for other positive habbits, maybe sports, or nerf gun, or practice shooting or baseketball, or going out to meet ups, It would really help me to find my niche outside the computers, a place I could socialize outside the computers. I am writting this, cuase I feel I can express myself better in forums without so many distractions.
Thanks a lot 7 cups for giving me this chance to express myself , even though I rant a lot.
@okeyyyy
What's your motivation for change? By that I specifically mean what grabs you by the shirt collars so profoundly it makes it seem worth going through all the trouble to start working at making a change.
To help you figure that out, I would suggest doing a cost benefits analysis of your gaming patterns. Clearly they seem to fill some sort of niche, though quite a large one from the sounds of it, in your life. How does the time spent gaming satisfy certain basic needs for you?
I'm going to link a very useful and informative slideshare that might help guide you create a cba. You can post the results publicly, privately to a listener of your choice, or you can keep the information for your own purposes.
https://www.slideshare.net/SMARTRecovery/cba-the-costbenefit-analysis
good luck! I'm rooting for you.
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Oh lord... I just read the date of your original post and it was in 2017. I've added this extra bit to my post to perhaps not look quite so silly. It sounds like you've found a nice community to give you the support you need with your discord group, excellent to hear.
@DaveMcGrath Thanks for all the help. I stoped gaming for over 5 months so far. :)
Well mainly it was to escape I guess, routine, reality, etc.
Yes, this post has been from last year :)
@okeyyyy
Awesome to hear you've made so much progress. What do you think helped the most?
@DaveMcGrath I think having this comuity of discord, and realizing how many years or decades of my life I spent on gaming. So I had to make a change. Every now and then I am kinda want to game, but I dont.
@okeyyyy
good to hear, sounds like you've really had a bit of a slog with it all. What sort of things do you do instead of gaming?
@DaveMcGrath Well, lately I began drawing, but now I am trying to go out more. I am still not working. Economy here sucks.
