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Stuck between parents
by oliveSailboat9838
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello so trigger warning, this might be a sensitive topic I felt so lost under the past few weeks I felt like I was just becoming the depressed me again. Like before. After I went too a therapist, that I stopped seeing because of my dad, tho I was starting to get better and heal, I just felt like having no one to vent too. Like before. Which made me feel so hopeless! So I went to this app, whishing it would make a difference. I'm so tired of my family gaslighting me, making me believe that what I think is wrong and it's not that deep, etc... " Children live under war right now. You're not even poor what's your problem." Like, I have enough. I just wanna live a healthy, peaceful life like self development ytbers say, but I'm stuck between two houses, where it is stated that me being who I am isn't welcome. Two toxic parents that I unfortunately had to learn the hard way, don't want the best for me. Neither for my sister, who I can't seems to communicante with . What do I do? Everybody from both families can't see the reality behind my parents, Friends probably won't understand. I feel stuck
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Stuck between my parents
by oliveSailboat9838
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello so trigger warning, this might be a sensitive topic I felt so lost under the past few weeks I felt like I was just becoming the depressed me again. Like before. After I went too a therapist, that I stopped seeing because of my dad, tho I was starting to get better and heal, I just felt like having no one to vent too. Like before. Which made me feel so hopeless! So I went to this app, whishing it would make a difference. I'm so tired of my family gaslighting me, making me believe that what I think is wrong and it's not that deep, etc... " Children live under war right now. You're not even poor what's your problem." Like, I have enough. I just wanna live a healthy, peaceful life like self development ytbers say, but I'm stuck between two houses, where it is stated that me being who I am isn't welcome. Two toxic parents that I unfortunately had to learn the hard way, don't want the best for me. Neither for my sister, who I can't seems to communicante with . What do I do? Everybody from both families can't see the reality behind my parents, Friends probably won't understand. I feel stuck
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Stuck between parents
by oliveSailboat9838
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more Trigger warning : sensitive topics I learned about mental health, care and improvement not so long ago, and it was a breath of fresh air for someone who was always told to stock my feelings and invalidante them with " it's not that deep"and gaslighting. I currently struggle with procrastination and feel so lost... I just feel like I have nowhere to go, because both my parents are toxic and narcissistic. But in a different way. While my mom yells and hit us all the time, my dad instead always plays the victim, yells and say insults when other people are not here, is "the greatest father" in front of others. I'm stuck between two houses, one where my mom don't want me to go anymore because of how I " went crazy" , another one where my dad lowkey tells his family I'm not supposed to be here. All of this, while my relationship with my little sister just gets worse because I feel guilty for not telling her things she has to know, I feel so vulnerable! All I want is somebody to help me and hear me. I did have a therapist when my dad tried to que my mom for child abuse, then when she wanted to meet them both, he started getting angry and putting his anger on me. My grandma ( who used to always support me) agreed with him, saying a man, wouldn't have to deal with children. He also said some terrible stuff to me. This is too much. Like, how is this normal? So what if some children live through war? Don't I have the right to live a healthy life, with respectful people? I went through years of depression, it all was getting better, and know this?
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The problem of my life.
by Fatmaisasoup
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more My family got divorced and I am two years and until now I can't forgive the person who was the reason for their marriage. But I don't have more words to say, but those who have gone through the same experience, I wish they would tell me what to do, because I don't know how to concentrate on any need of thinking, and I became very sensitive and cry easily from accumulations.
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family bucket list 2025
by delightfulUnicorn38
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more  Every new year give a chance to start  a fresh and plan amusant things to do with the kids., you can  create a Family Bucket List together as a family and put down all the fun things you want to do , you could  Take inspiration from the list below and add new ideas as you like Be 1.     Kind to each other 2.     Brave when you need to be 3.     More helpful around the home Try  1.     To keep your room clean (that includes Mum & Dad!) 2.     To visit somewhere cultural each month 3.     To read a classic and generally read more play 1.     A family board game every week 2.     Cards together 3.     The musical instrument you have more or learn a new one Create       1.     A herb garden 2.     Memories from special days out 3.     A list of new things you would like to try during the year  
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Caregiving ups and downs
by CDanielle
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hi there! I take care of my blind father with dementia and my wheelchair bound mother, all by myself. They can do a lot for themselves still, amazingly, yet needless to say Im stressed. I need my own job too, but no time. They take care of my needs for now. I have pretty severe anxiety so its not like Im one of those lucky people who are energizer bunnies with a gusto for life, though I do love my life. I am trying and it is my kitties, my fur babies, that keep me going when it gets hard. I so much wish to find others who are in or have been in, similar situations. Thank you for listening. :-)
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My chest hurts from pain
by carefulAcres5806
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Yesterday I was in a psychology session. I wrote down my past, present and future plan. Basically I mainly noted the consistent neglect I faced, the inhuman abuse and how I had to be a mother to both my elder and younger brother, I'm scared of men due to r*pe at 6 to 11 and I lost my appetite to live. My mother was there. She has her own trauma and I forgave her for her part in mine. But it struck a nerve in her and she confessed that she stage 3 brain tumor, surgery will do more damage at her age and her only option is a slow death. This honestly killed whatever happiness and satisfaction I worked hard to build. I was feel heavy and empty, I can't even force a smile, total opposite to what I was before. I can't cry too. How do I live with this knowing that I can't do anything anything to save her. It's killing me.
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Caretaker Burn Out
by Patriot
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more I'm just so spent.  My husband and I have been taking care of my 90 year old mother for the past 4 years.  We've not had a vacation or a weekend away for 4 years. My husband is retired and I still work, so he takes care of Mom during the day and I take over when I get home from work and on the weekends.   Prior to my mom's illness (osteoarthritis-unable to move around unassisted but can still walk) we were very close. We enjoyed each other's company and had fun together. Since she became ill, I've seen a very different side to her. She's overly dramatic with her symptoms, demanding, unreasonable and mean.  She was tested for dementia and the results were she just has age related memory issues but not dementia. It's her attitude that has gotten me so down. She used to be fun, we (my husband and I) loved taking her places, taking her on trips with us, dinners etc... But now she is a bitter, ugly old woman who finds fault with all we do for her. If I clean her bathroom, she'll point out small specks I may have missed, we buy her good quality food, she won't eat it (we've wasted so much money on food for her that she says she likes, then won't eat), complains she wants socks, when we buy her socks she finds fault and won't wear them, the same with shoes & slippers. The list goes on and on.  Both my husband and I are just mentally exhausted. We have no help (can't afford Visiting Angels and we have no family nearby). We can't go anywhere to get away from her.  The only time we get a break is when she is sleeping.   I'm tired all the time, depressed, no motivation and feel hopeless.  My husband, while being a great support, feels the same. No energy, no motivation to do anything. We both feel like we're being held hostage by an ungrateful shrew who is determined to make us feel as miserable as she is and she is succeeding.  She cannot afford to go into a nursing home and my husband is old school and feels since we're her only family (both my brothers have passed in the last 10 years and my father passed 22 years ago) we need to keep her at home as long as we can.  Her doctors are not much help. They just want to put her on antidepressants (she refuses to take them).  Aside from that, they just take her temp, do her labs and send her out the door until next year.  I just needed to vent.  I never anticipated this happening to a woman who was so full of life and had such a great outlook. I also never anticipated how miserable and defeated I would end up feeling at this stage in my life. I see no hope for the future. 
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hello
by romasgirl
Last post
 December 28th
...See more hello, i joined this group because i needed to talk about my family, my mom is verbally abusive, my brother is physically abusive and my sister too. i dont know how to deall with it all
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Bipolar spouse
by ambitiousNectarine1515
Last post
 December 28th
...See more My husband is bipolar im trying desperately to find someone in the same position to talk to
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Family
by PeggyMeghan111
Last post
 December 28th
...See more My mum and my siblings are the one supposed to care for me but whenever I ask for help they are not able to support me
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Is this normal?
by drzombienoodles
Last post
 December 24th
...See more I want to know if I’m being too sensitive and this is normal in families or if there serious underlying emotional pain with my parents. my mother told me that because she is my mom and gave birth to me, I cannot be upset with her about anything ever and I should just bite my tongue all the time. Is that normal? my mother has also insulted me (called me a *** for wearing a cleavage showing tank top, etc) and then said it doesn’t count as an insult because she was just messing around. Is that normal? my father said I would be an idiot if I quit the job I have that I hate because it’s a good job and I should keep it then transfer to different locations. That’s his dad advice. Is that normal? my mother also says I’m too sensitive, argumentative, and need to get over everything. She’s never apologized to me ever in her life. Is that normal? keep in mind, I’m an adult with my own income living by myself. Are these normal things in family and am I just being sensitive when they are messing around?

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