15 facts about people with concealed anxiety

1. They dont hide their anxiety, they hide their symptoms. To have concealed anxiety isnt to deny having it – only to do everything in your power to ensure other people dont see you struggle.

2. They have the most anxiety about having anxiety. Because they are not comfortable letting people see them in the throes of an irrational panic, the most anxiety-inducing idea is… whether or not theyll have anxiety at any given moment in time.

3. They come across as a paradoxical mix of outgoing but introverted, very social but rarely out. It is not that they are anti-social, just that they can only take being around others incrementally (which is mostly normal). Yet, on the surface, this may come across as confusing.

4. They make situations worse by trying to suppress their feelings about them. They are extremely uncomfortable with other people seeing them in pain, and they dont want to feel pitied or as though they are compromising anyones time. Yet, they make things worse for themselves by suppressing, as it actually funnels a ton of energy into making the problem larger and more present than it already was.

5. They are often hyper-aware and highly intuitive. Anxiousness is an evolutionary function that essentially keeps us alive by making us aware of our surroundings and other peoples motives. Its only uncomfortable when we dont know how to manage it effectively – the positive side is that it makes you hyper-conscious of whats going on around you.

6. Their deepest triggers are usually social situations. Its not that they feel anxious in an airplane, its that they feel anxious in an airplane and are stuck around 50 other people. Its not that they will fail a test, but that they will fail a test and everyone in school will find out and think they are incompetent and their parents will be disappointed. Its not that they will lose love, but that they will lose love and nobody will ever love them again.

7. It is not always just a panicked feeling they have to hide. It can also be a tendency to worry, catastrophizing, etc. The battle is often (always?) between competing thoughts in their minds.

8. They are deep thinkers, and great problem-solvers. One of the benefits of anxiety is that it leads you to considering every worst case scenario, and then subsequently, how to handle or respond to each.

9. They are almost always self-regulating their thoughts. Theyre talking themselves in, out, around, up or down from something or another very often, and increasingly so in public places.

10. They dont trust easily, but they will convince you that they do. They want to make the people around them feel loved and accepted as it eases their anxiety in a way.

11. They tend to desire control in other areas of their lives. Theyre over-workers or are manically particular about how they dress or cant really seem to let go of relationships if it wasnt their idea to end them.

12. They have all-or-nothing personalities, which is what creates the anxiety. Despite being so extreme, they are highly indecisive. They try to figure out whether or not something is right before they actually try to do it.

13. They assume they are disliked. While this is often stressful, it often keeps them humble and grounded at the same time.

14. They are very driven (they care about the outcome of things). They are in equal proportions as in control of their lives as they feel out of control of their lives – this is because they so frequently try to compensate for fear of the unknown.

15. They are very smart, but doubt it. A high intelligence is linked to increased anxiety (and being doubtful of ones mental capacity are linked to both).

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