Frustration tolerance is part of mental health
We have to tolerate some frustration and discomfort - it is part of mental health.
Frustration tolerance is a part of mental health. Many unpleasant things happen in life, but we have to learn to tolerate them. This is an essential part of mental health.
Mental health resilience involves developing the capacity to cope with frustrations effectively.
Mental health is more than just the absence of mental illness. It's also the ability to cope with challenges and stress in a healthy way. An important part of this is developing frustration tolerance. Everyone experiences unpleasant and difficult situations in life, but we need to learn to accept and deal with these things so that they don't have a negative impact on our mental well-being.
For example, if someone says something to us or regarding us, we should know that many things which we can find hurtful, aren't said with bad intention. We shouldn't assume that they did it in order to hurt us. Many times there is just misunderstanding.
For example:
My nephews were talking that i sit all the time and that it is why i am sick. Brother's wife, their mother, explained to them that i have to sit like old people do (they know that many old people sit in wheelchairs) because i am sick.
It is true that I sit in my electric wheelchair. But i am not sick because i always sit,
but i alwaysy sit and move around sitting, in my electric wheelchair,
because i am sick. I have to sit and rest. Doctor prescribed me resting
and electric wheelchair when i was still a child. For me it is better to
sit and rest than to injure myself. I have to let my caregiver do the
needed chores where physical strength is needed. I am very thankful for
doctors, electric wheelchair, caregiver and everything else. I don't
have strength and elasticity in muscles. I can type on computer, but i
can't for example, transfer myself from bed to wheelchair as i can fall
and get severe injuries. It is why i need caregiver to do help me with
transferring from bed to wheelchair.
Why did my nephew say it? Not with bad intention, but because they just learned at school how important exercise is and how harmful sitting can be. His mother and i needed to just kindly explain the situation to him without felling that someone was hurt.
@CheerySandi very good to hear about this topic. Sorry you are confined to a wheelchair. That must be limiting
@CheerySandi
Frustration tolerance is something I think many should remember and embrace...
I am struggling with items that while i know the person saying them most likely does not mean them the way I take them ... my tolerance is low at the moment. Learning to deal with frustration and to know even if we are aware and can see things are not meant to be insulting/ triggering or hurtful they do sometimes sting and stick with us....
@CheerySandi
Thank you for this helpful post Sandi! Life will be so much easier when we do not assume something negative behind what someone said but give them the benefit of doubt.
@amiablePeace77 Do you have any thoughts about how to handle it when we know there may not be any negative intention by the person but it still hurts and feels frustrating?
@adventurousBranch3786 you can use positive self talk and positive affirmations.
"It sounds unkind but it might not be their intention to be unkind. I can handle it."
Or just let your thoughts on what happened go by - using indfulness tactics.
@CheerySandi. Thanks for these good ideas.
@CheerySandi. I’ve been struggling with frustration and discomfort from comments like these (even thought there might not be bad intentions).
I’m going to try saying some affirmations such as these.
Some people might understand. Others might try and perhaps support me imperfectly.
What was said made me feel uncomfortable but I can tolerate it.
I found some other affirmations
‘That was uncomfortable and frustrating for me but I can manage it.
This isn’t an emergency . It’s okay for me to take my time on how to respond.
