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Death and Weddings

limejello September 9th, 2023

Sept 9, 2011, my brother took his own life. Also on that day, I had to tell our Mama her son was gone.

Then Sept 9, 2014 I had to tell Mama that there was nothing else the doctors could do for her and she was dying. She died 6 days later.

I feel horrible guilt for both my brothers death and my Mama’s death.


Today my dear cousin is getting married. I feel horrible guilt, but I don’t know that I will go to the celebration.


I hope it’s ok to share this…I just needed to say it.

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toughTiger6481 September 9th, 2023

@limejello

I am sure your cousin knows this is a bad time of year with all dates/ timing reminding you of that... and will not be upset that you chose to not go to a wedding.

SunShineAlwaysGrateful September 10th, 2023

@limejello

i am so incredibly sorry for your loss. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

It is natural when processing grief it takes time. We all handle it differently. You cannot control what happens around you only your reaction to it. This is your power.

Your family would want you to live a great life. Family is important they love your family as well. It may help you to be there but only you know if this is right for you.

I am sending lots of care your way across the miles. Please update and let us know how you are doing and so glad you found 7cups. Glad you are here for support. 💯💯💯


shyCat542 September 10th, 2023

Hug to you.

CocoaCassie September 11th, 2023

@limejello I am so sorry for your losses. Grief takes time to heal, but you know that, be kind to yourself you have been through two devastating things so sending you hugs and healing.