Constant change
My life constantly changes. There is almost no point in making a plan, because something will come up. My coach tells me I need to learn to say no to my family. But my family are not users. And I evaluate who’s need is greater in the moment, mine or there’s. I’m essentially retired and while there are things I might like to do or planned to do or perhaps I need some rest, there is rarely a really good reason why I can’t do what is asked or change my plans. The frustration of it all is not in the ask, it’s in the change. No plan works out as it was meant to, something always comes up. After years of this, long years, I’m finally considering rather than try to make things happen in a planned, orderly fashion, maybe I need to accept this is my life and learn to never need a constant. Always be prepared to change course with the wind. But I don’t know how. Something inside me begs for consistency and routine. To the point that it is distressing. Has anyone else experienced this? Overcome it? Have pointers (besides learn to say no).
@kindPomegranate4816 You could always establish a routine & stick to it. If you're retired then your time is your own, to do what you want with it. Beyond just saying no, you can always just not listen to the umpteen-dozen demands your family makes, as in "--no to the rest of whatever you were about to ask. If you could solve your own d**n problems for a change, that would be great."
