This doesn't seem helpful
So, I have tried making posts, that no one responds to. They might get upvoted, but no response. I have tried to talk to a listener and that has gone very badly...I have tried 5 times and it makes me so sad. I could go into why each listener experience was bad, but am not sure it would be helpful.
I think this site could be really great and I understand that there is a huge burden for anyone who is expected to respond or listen. It's just really hard when you realize you aren't heard and no one really listens...no one cares to respond, maybe because they don't know how...but they could. They could say, "I don't understand this, but I'm sorry you're going through it." Even though that isn't entirely helpful, at least it's recognition and it shows I'm not invisible.
Maybe the point is, to get so frustrated that you actually pay for therapy on this site? I don't know.
@LovelyPlace4774 This site can really suck sometimes. It can take too long for listeners to accept a chat, or sometimes I’ve gotten really bad listeners. Other times it has been helpful. If you find a good listener once in awhile it can be worth putting up with the drawbacks. I hope you find good listeners.
@LovelyPlace4774 hope we can keep in touch with each other, i know how we feel. I will listen to you.
@LovelyPlace4774 maybe professional help is better for you. i reccomend betterhelp
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Unfortunately your profile set-up does not allow to receive messages from listeners. I realized that you were active the last time in May but if you read this message please know you're welcome to message me.
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I think i have learnt topost on weekends, some days I dont even get a response.
I can say of myself I'm a forum veteran, but I've never seen forums so hard to navigate as this. Maybe except for Reddit and this is why I can't stand Reddit. Way too many forums and subforums and too many one post threads.
As for the quality of listeners, I can't really comment, but I've heard that some people are using this as a dating app. I've seen some members using very suggestive and inappropriate names that seem to support it.
I'm sure its hard to police a site like this. Or the real life. That's life (sigh).
@aquajaybird I am sorry you are finding the site difficult to find support. If you tell us what kind of support or subcommunities you are looking for support in, I will try to direct you to the resources here at 7cups. Please tag the post with @soulsings so I get an alert.
We take anonymity very seriously and member safety. Anyone that is found exchanging personal info to have offsite contact is liable to losing privileges on 7cups. We try to make joining 7cups easy but some people may try to find ways to take advantage of this easy joining and may try to evade detection, but usually they are detected so they can do no harm to members.
Of course safety is not something we can dictate. We strongly encourage members and listeners not to offer personal contact info to protect their anonymity and prevent them from being vulnerable. It is up to members and listeners to keep their personal contact info out of 7cups.
Thank you for being part of the 7cups community.
