MENTALPAUSE!!!
I don't think there is ANY explaining menopause until you have experienced it...
I think I am through the worst of it TG.
But it was a bit of a rough go :(
Its a big change in life.
EVERYTHING changes.
What was it like for you?
I was pretty lucky. Didn't really have hot flashes.
I dont do them too bad. I know others who get them bad.
I just found the whole mood and hormonal thing tough, but think i am past the worst of it.
I am not the same though. It was a huge change of life and body and mind. I aged 10 years in 1. Thats what it felt like. Allasudden i was over the hill and realized i was racing all too quickly down the other side......
@tryingtofarm52 I'm sorry you have had that experience. Do you have a group of friends that have experienced the same? Most of the people I work closely with are younger and have no idea what it's like.
Ya, I ahve talked to others too. Its good to share that they not alone.
Now I am just at a weird place in life where my second child will lv the nest in the next coupla years, so I dont know what lies ahead.
I worry bout finances as I dont want to be a burden to my kids.
I worry bout my health cuz my daughter still really needs me proly for a few years yet.
Sigh.
I am old, tired and hurt lots. Cant take ibuprophen etc much cuz it rots my gut.
Its a dull dark wet day, and soon I need to get off to do my farmwork.
T'hell with the housework ;o)
Hope you are doing ok.
Thx.
as a man I haven't experienced any literal equivalent of menopause (yet) but I have lived through it with some close family members and it is a rollercoaster ride.
I'm mid menopause, I think. (How long does the damn thing last, anyway?!) I find the hot flushes the worst thing about it. They are ridiculously impossible to ignore or "work through". And they come on at awkward times, for example when I've been on hold waiting in a queue for a human to speak to on the phone. It's really infuriating.
The worst is when people are dawdling in front of me!! Apart from that, I guess I'm just my usual sunny natured self. 
@braveSugar7964
dawdlers have always annoyed me :)
hot flashes seem to peter out for some and continue indefinitely for others! it's like the thermostat has gone a bit haywire.
I'm really hoping mine dwindle at some point. The "beetroot" look isn't a good one!
Can we get off the ride now please? Lol
@yzzilyzzil
Aw and I was just getting the hang of it.
I'm 40. Just had a hyst and ovaries removed mid aug due to medical issues. I'm on an estrogen patch....it's not working. Doc just increased the dose. This is awful. Hot flashes, chills, insomnia, bone and muscle aches, and the mood swings have been ridiculous. I already deal with major depression, it's10 times worse right now. I feep like I'm going crazy.
@mistpete75
it must be awful! i'm so sorry.
my B used to stand in front of the open refrigerator / freezer door...
@mistpete75. I understand some of what you are going through. I'm sorry you are struggling. It does get better. Use this community to help you get through it. You are most definitely NOT going crazy!!
Still not sure if I'm allowed in here cos I'm 36 but hello anyway. I haven't reached menopause yet (though I think about it a lot ..... anxiety disorder!).
But I thought I'd share anyways cos I have a serious hormone imbalance which gives me lots of problems. I went to a naturopath recently who gave me a natural hormone remedy called "Shatavari" root. It seems to help my hormones a bit and my naturopath is 55 and told me it works to minimise her own menopause symptoms.
I am in the middle of this nightmare right now. I am technically in peri menopause and have been here for 10 years. Things changed this past year and I fell psycho during pms and very aggressive. We have 5 kids. 3 older and 2 younger that we adopted. The boy has an intellectual disability and lots of behavior. I feel like I am always angry with him. This is just not me and I hate it. I am on a natural supplement and progesterone cream and it's better but I am still just awful one week a month.
I'm just starting peri-menopause myself. Been doing it for almost a year. My mother went through it for over 15 years. I'm doing better since a friend of mine suggested this herbal supplement called black kohash. It completely ended my hot flashes... and it completely took m
*took my Hague
Menopaus thought I was loosing my mind so glad to know that all these feelings are normal. That the roller coaster I have riding is just nature taking its course. Thank you to everyone who has posted what they are going through it gives me hope that one day I will be normal again. Yea I'm not crazy just getting older.
@Nowhour. Glad you checked in. Ya, nothing like PMS on steroids, over a furnace. Lol
@yzzil
Thanks for acknowledging me wow I am alive.
I think that is one of the first things I noticed was how I have become invisible to the general public. Its weird its like they see me but they don't. Does it feel that way to you?
@Nowhour. Hi. I havent felt invisible. I work in a school and us mature folk are everywhere. 😁.
Tell me more about your experience.
This life stage has been a real challenge and struggle for me physically, of course, but also for my relationship in quite a major way - the changes in my body and emotions playing havoc with our interaction and closeness .... anyone else out there that had a similar experience and want to share and support each other?
This life stage has been a real challenge and struggle for me physically, of course, but also for my relationship in quite a major way - the changes in my body and emotions playing havoc with our interaction and closeness .... anyone else out there that had a similar experience and want to share and support each other?