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I dont know what to do. Please Help.

lovingDrum8823 October 15th, 2021

I've been with my SO for about 4 years. He has DID. About 3.5 years ago an abusive alter took all of my ID and paperwork and banking card. I literally have nothing to prove who I am, nor can i access my bank account. Any money has to come from my so. He one of the kindest men I've ever known and i love him deeply.


However, whenever i bring up the ID issue he winds up losing time and does not remember how important this is to me. Apparently this is a trigger for him. I dont know why.


I have no relatives that can help me with this. My parents are dead. I no longer have any friends I can ask, either.


At this point I'm so upset and depressed about this situation that I feel like I could lose my mind. Without identification I cannot get healthcare, vote, volunteer, get a job, get a library card, etc. I cry almost every day.


How can I fix this?

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lovingDrum8823 OP October 15th, 2021

I should add I know I need some serious mental health counseling but I can't do that without money or ID. I'm 52 and have no way to get pre cancer screenings like mammograms and pap smears. It's been years. I have no car so I can't just drive away. I'm quite alone. I'm scared.

adventurousBranch3786 October 15th, 2021

@lovingDrum8823 Hi, this sounds like a really difficult situation. I believe that you can apply for a new social security card with the social security administration by internet. Have you spoken to the management at the bank to see if there is anything that you can do?

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GoldenNest2727 October 24th, 2021

@adventurousBranch3786

And you can ask the post office to hold your mail for you to pick up (if you're afraid he'll find in the mailbox and refuse to let you have it). You also have the option to send your mail to another post office and ask them to hold it. Just say you're visiting someone or passing through.

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vlostwithyouv October 15th, 2021

Search the house from top to bottom with him watching, I would..

janey1111 October 23rd, 2021

@lovingDrum8823


This is actually a criminal act. This type of theft is a criminal offense. I believe this is a ruse this person is using to control you and your life. You would be better off alone than subjected to this type of abuse.

MonkeyBananaButter4830 October 24th, 2021

Maybe go to a place where you can report what is happening.