Family Estrangement

I have been on both sides.......

i was estranged from my mother/ and siblings when i was a younger adult and NOW have one child who just cut contact with my spouse but will still talk with me.

From my experience many people need to see estrangement comes after many times trying but boundaries were not respected or followed.

I wish i could change things sometimes turn back time but even if i could i cannot fix stubborn personalities who refuse to budge an inch. I know sometimes it is just too late and sorry is just not enough. The longer one waits the harder it is to even remember what set something down the path to estrangement.

@notsostrongmom

Like toughTiger said, i was estranged from my parents for quite a few years, as the relations at home were not the greatest, it was a dysfunctional marriage and probably some mental health issues, too. eventually, as i matured more, I started talking to them and visit them semi regularly, too. before they died, they told me about their difficult childhood circumstances and i fully understood.

so, the bottom line is they can come back to you, but you need to see your own shortcomings and own up to them.

incidentally, i saw it in the news today:

https://www.newsweek.com/parenting-family-mom-dad-children-estrangement-cut-off-1739384

My grown daughter doesn’t want to talk to me. I was not invited to important life accomplishments. It hurts and I know I am not innocent and have helped create this. But my heart breaks every day when I think about her.

@notsostrongmom i am a adult parent. my son is 23 and he and i havent talked in almost 3 years.