Not attracted to Mr. Right
I met him in 2005. In 2010-2014, we were boyfriend & girlfriend. We were good emotionally and physically (intimacy).
He’s the only guy who accepts me for me. I have a disability and bipolar. He’s kindhearted, smart, reliable, honorable and thoughtful.
I broke up with him in 2014 because I was too bipolar. Afterwards, I dated so many guys that only wanted sex and not a relationship. I got so heartbroken that I went from one guy to another to try to heal, but the wound got too painful. I felt so ashamed that I wish I burned to death on their bed.
In 2021, I got back with Mr. Right. But something changed. I didn’t feel any chemistry. I only hug and hold hands with him. I didn’t kiss him or anything more.
I feel empty with him, besides him being so fun to hangout with and how good he’s with with my mom. I feel friendship with him.
Mr. Right is understanding. He takes only minimal physical contact so he can be with me. The conditions of him being my boyfriend doesn’t require me to have sex with him.
I get sex dreams about another guy and this guy is not as good as Mr. Right. But at least I’m not sleeping with a whole bunch of Mr. Wrongs. I’ve improved.
I think I’m attracted to the wrong guys (who are not loving) because I don’t love myself. I’m attracted to what’s familiar from childhood. As a child, I felt neglected and unimportant. And I’m so drawn to guys who make me feel that way.
If I love myself enough one day, I’ll be able to be intimate with Mr. Right?
What if I take longer than 1-2 years? What if I never? I’m faithful to my Mr. Right. But my heart is closed.
Please help!
Do you know anyone who has a similar problem?