Just realized the ppl i love are gaslighters & narcissists!

I just realized the man I love is a gaslighter and my roommates are extreme narcissists!

How do I subconsciously choose ppl like this to be in my life? I must be easy pray. So what do I change in myself that wont make me bait?

I know I have a hard time being assertive & standing up for myself. I do whatever possible to avoid conflict. I just want ppl to like me.

I fall in love way to quick.

I trust everyone upon 1st meeting them.

I feel I have to help everyone around me with their problems when my own world is falling apart.

I thought all this just made me a better person, more caring than others, more dependable, more liked.