I’m so lost and need help.
I don’t know what else to do but throw up a flag and ask for help. My hope is that someone out here has been through a similar situation and can offer me some hope. I need it so badly right now. I have let insecurities and depression ruin my marriage to the most amazing woman I have ever met. I have let it drag my family into debt. It has gotten so bad that I have to go to jail over child support owed to my ex. My wife told me a week ago that she has had enough. She can’t help me, she tried so hard to pull me out of my darkness but it ended up pulling her down. Now I have to go to jail tomorrow and my wife is gone. I’m losing my home. I was trying to get custody of my kids to get them out of the bad situation they are in with my ex. I feel like I have literally FAILED life. Now I’m lost. I want to fight for my wife but she’s right. Fight for what? For her to come back to me and be miserable? I know that’s not right. She said she loves me and wants me to work on myself. But how? I want her back. She is going to see other men now and I can’t bare that thought. I just want to stand on top of my house and scream someone help me!
@DamagedDad89 Hi there! I am so sorry to read about your problems right now, I don't know what to say to help but I wanted you to know your post was read and you are not alone. Good luck!
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Thank you, I think really that’s the goal. To just feel like I’m not alone.
@DamagedDad89 You are not alone! And, please do come back and visit us whenever you can. Stay strong, you got this! Even when you feel low you will geet through this and jail will most likely have things to help you too. Use your time as best you can. Take care of yourself, sending you lots of positive thoughts ⭐️
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@DamagedDad89 I will give you the advice that I can. I went to place that made me happy, I went outside and did things I enjoy, every day I would wake up and chose to be a better person, bite my tongue when necessary and show love. I went with people I love and care, I put myself first every once in a while. To get out of dept you may probably move into a apartment depending where you live, Work overtime at work. There is also places where you can receive help for example wellfare or donation. I hope this can help you.
Today is the day too. In a few hours I’ll be In jail for a couple of weeks and come out to all of my stuff moved and wife gone. SMH
I have absolutely been there. Everything felt hopeless and I was badly behind on child support, because I just didn't make enough money at the time. I can tell you it gets better. Find something, anything good to focus on, make small improvements every day. It's cliche, but one day at a time is the only way to get going again.
@DamagedDad89 I’m sorry to hear you’re in this situation. I don’t have any advice but sharing a relatable point in my life perhaps when I felt I have failed on everything and the insight that helped. Self awareness, Self forgiveness, self care, self love. Once I got there or even just a portion of them, I am able to be a better person to and for the people that matter.
I called myself a failure. I started by changing the way I saw and talked to myself. A steady one day at a time helped me, too. I found rushing things gave me anxiety.
I’m sending you the energies of strength and wisdom. Take care. What you did here is a big step. Know when you need help and reach out.
Thank you all so much. I will check in when I get out in a couple of weeks. In the meantime, the main thing I have learned and it sounds so easy and obvious but it’s so important: do something, find some way every single day to show your special person how much you love and appreciate them. It’s easy to do but also easy to overlook. I would do anything for my wife to just look at me the way she used to. And if I had spent more time showing her how much she mattered, then I may still be going to jail over being broke. But I’d still have my light in the dark.
@DamagedDad89 I just wanted to leave you a message so when you come back you know we are thinking of you . I hope that the time went fast and that you managed to cope with all that was thrown at you ⭐️
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@DamagedDad89 Hey, in 2019 my husband relapsed (meth). We have 5 children together and after a chain of events (long story), we ended up homeless for a year. He was alone in a men’s shelter and I was with the kids in another. They wouldn’t let us see each other and almost convinced me to divorce him. Today he is sober, working full time, and a much better husband. That year was ***. I don’t say that lightly. Definitely the worst year of my life. I felt like I Ajax lost everything and it sounds like that is how you are feeling now.
Hi. I'm a woman who pays child support for my eldest. I can't afford much either, but you can get your amount decreased by the courts of you don't make as much. You should look into that after you get out.
Things will get better. This is just one of those difficult times. Stay strong and Good luck to you 🙂
