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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 September 30th
...See more Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 July 26th
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
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Feeling beaten down.
by consideratePine2265
Last post
 December 8th
...See more I'm feeling completely beaten down in life lately. As I get older it feels like the weight of my inaction and lack of success is worsening and burying me in my already horrible mental health. I can barely leave my apartment, I have these daily non-stop internal battles with myself that make me sick to the point of needing rest, which just turns into worsening viscous cycle. Everything I do is generating negative emotion and I feel like I really lost this fight. The things that made me who I was when I was younger are fraying away and I feel this paralyzing anxiety about how I'm potentially going to manage and navigate people, work and the world in the future. I've never felt so unable to solve my own problems in my life and it's becoming legitimately frightening.
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Coping with poverty
by Drum2089
Last post
 November 14th
...See more How do you adapt to hard times alone? I made poor choices as a minor and young adult.
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Has Any Relationship Survived Infidelity?
by zeetee17
Last post
 November 3rd
...See more I'm in couples therapy trying to deal with my spouse's affair. Long story short, we hit a rough patch last summer and he cheated on me. We've been in couples therapy since Jan 2022 but I found about the affair in April. It destroyed me. He's been doing everything he can to show me he's changed but I'm still so bitter and feel so much hate and rage towards him. I feel like imhave bad ptsd from this, I have such bad depression over the affair and anxiety over the future with him. He's so different now, is going to therapy to be a better man, but I resent it had to come to this for change to happen. Has anyone ever managed to heal with their partner after something like this?
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Have you ever gotten to that point...
by HopefulOne81
Last post
 October 18th
...See more You ever get to that point that so much has happened in the past months, that your emotions go numb? You still have them. But, they are definitely in "I don't care" mode. That's where I am at. I'm tired of fighting the anxiety, the depression and everything in between. Tired of trying to control situations where I clearly cannot. Mainly in my current relationship. So much of me is exhausted to the point of not caring anymore. Just go and do what you want at this point. I'm tired. My stress has been extreme in other departments of this life. I'm 42 and just done. I just want to go home, shut the world out and hang out with my cat. He get's me. LOL  If you've made it this far, thank you.
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Be Strong 💪
by NotMeButYou
Last post
 October 13th
...See more Sometimes, the journey may seem overwhelming, and the road ahead uncertain, but remember that every step forward, no matter how small, brings you closer to your dreams. The only person who can limit your success is you. Believe in your potential, push through the challenges, and rise above self-doubt. You are stronger than you think. If you ever feel lost or lonely on this journey, don't hesitate to reach out for help and support. We’re here to listen and guide you through." Quick Poll: What motivates you to keep going when things get tough? 1. Family/Friends 2. Personal Growth 3. My Dreams 4. Other
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I cheated
by lylyri
Last post
 September 21st
...See more I figured out how much I appreciate my boyfriend and how much I want him to be the father of my kids after I cheated on him. It's been half a year since I did this horrible mistake. Since then I've been going to bed feeling guilty and crying tears of regret. The guy I slept with is by far gone, blocked and erased. I tried ending whatever I we had in good terms so I wouldn't have to worry so much about him doing anything stupid. However he used to follow me on intagram and has seen my boyfriends profile for sure. My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship because I'm studying dentistry in an other country for the time being. He has no clue of what I've done. I know a lot of you would advise me to tell him the truth, but that cant be an option for me. I much rather break up with him telling him a much less painful excuse. The truth is selfish and painful, also I'm certain he wouldn't forgive me, so it wouldn't do any good. I'm just not sure if I should consider not saying anything and going on with life and take the next steps it this relationship, or end it. Please dont ask me why I did it because I really dont think theres a reason. I love my boyfriend now more than ever and this situation is hurting me so bad.
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Betrayal Trauma
by zeetee17
Last post
 September 14th
...See more Its been 9 months since I found out about my partner's affair, and despite his commitment to change, I still have frequent nightmares, panic attacks, acute emotional pain over the trauma. I feel like he deserves to experience the emotional damage he's put me through. I don't know what love is or is supposed to mean anymore, but it will never be the same. I'm emotionally detached from sex because I keep picturing him with her when we are intimate. This is devastating to me because I am a sexual person and I enjoy it and I feel loke he's ruined that for me too. No matter how much he's changed, I'm stuck in this cycle of betrayal trauma. Seeing a therapist ever since it happened.
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33 and pregnant
by friendlyMango7039
Last post
 August 28th
...See more Hi I’m 33 pregnant and I feel so alone. I have no one to talk to about how I’m feeling I’m ten weeks in and it feels so hard
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Is my spouse being disrespectful or mean in his reaction?
by wonderingmindandspirit
Last post
 August 28th
...See more How would you interpret it if your spouse responded angrily after you declined a sexual advance, saying things like, 'You're my spouse, you should just give in,' and implying there's something wrong with you for not wanting to? Is this normal behavior, or is it crossing a line?
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Struggling with a breakup / separation and relocation - too much life change at once!!
by startingoverandscared
Last post
 August 20th
...See more Hi everybody, I will be 36 next week, and I'm navigating some of the most difficult times and challenges of my life so far right now. I'm navigating a breakup with someone I'd been with for 14 years - it would be 16 years this September, but we split up last year after the previous year had been spent negotiating some differences in wants/needs (she wanted something open/poly, and I was not super comfortable with it - we live in a very small town in WV where I was already struggling to develop a healthy social life, among other concerns). We have remained friends and lived together since the split - and navigated other issues together, like me being laid off unexpectedly in mid-2023 and her changing jobs frequently. I took a job last month about 3 hours away, and it just didn't feel right for a variety of reasons - but one of those reasons was truly realizing that once I left, it would really be over for good. We could still be friends, but we wouldn't be as close, the relationship would change, and my new life would be centered around this job - which didn't pay very much, was onsite in a government office 40 hrs a week, and is in the state where she wants to be and has family / friends - where most of my friends and family are primarily on the other side of the country. So she let me move back into our house for August after I left that job, and I've found another job out West that pays more money and offers more remote/hybrid flexibility, still in an unfamiliar place but where I have a friend to stay with for my first month as I figure things out and much closer to other friends and family. But now I'm at a point where later this week, I will have to leave her and this house that we've shared for several years now, and it is hitting me really hard. Even though I know it's the best decision, I find myself clinging to the familiarity even if I know the relationship would deteriorate quickly if I stayed and I would be unhappy pretty quickly (possibly even more unhappy than I am now) if I changed course and tried to move somewhere around here to remain close to her and try to find work and cultivate more friendships/relationships around where I've been the last few years. She first and foremost needs space and time for herself and I respect that wholeheartedly, it makes sense for her to keep take on the house payments and the house because this is somewhere she wants to be, and for me to take the car and car payments because I have opportunities on the other side of the country that I have set up for myself. I'm just having such a hard time actually getting across the finish line. Packing is sad and scary. Picturing loading up the car is sad and scary. Driving across the country and staying in hotels until I reach my destination sounds sad and scary. Starting a new job sounds hard and scary and who knows if it'll be a good fit or how long it will last. Even staying with friends and family in my mentally fragile and uncertain and unstable mindset feels very scary and intimidating, too. Everything feels wrong, nothing feels right, and those feelings drive me back to wanting to stay in this comfort that I've known for so long - even though it's basically just a mirage at this point, it's not comfort to her and if I dug my heels in and stayed, she would leave me in this house and take the car and I would have to rebuild here in her world. I mostly wrote this just to vent, and to share my story in a place where at least we're all around similar ages to one another, but I would greatly appreciate any words of support, or wisdom, or feedback, or anything. I'm just trying to get comfortable sharing my story with people and feeling less alone about all of it, because that has been the worst part of all of this, is feeling like once I leave here that I will be eternally alone forever and ever and that I messed up the one chance I had to be with someone forever.
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Code 064
by passionateNorth2259
Last post
 July 30th
...See more Hello everyone When i try to create a thread they gave me code 064 error And i can't do a thread What's going on?
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Break up
by mary31
Last post
 July 16th
...See more I broke up yesterday. It hurts so much. I have to rebuild myself, but trying not to think about the future or anything ...

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

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Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

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The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


However, please understand that teens as young as 13 years old can access these forums, so please keep topics appropriate.

So please:
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!