Struggling

@YouForia0809 that's a lot of stuff to be dealing with, bless you ❤ I'm not a listener, but I'm here if you want to talk about it ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug, how is the baby?

Hey, I know things feel dark right now, but let me remind you of something: you were not put on this earth just to suffer. You are not here by accident. You have a purpose, even if you can’t see it yet. Your existence matters. You matter.

Right now, you might feel lost, but that doesn’t mean you’re broken, it just means you’re in a moment of change. And in this moment, the most important thing you can do is take care of yourself the way you would care for someone you deeply love. Treat yourself with the same kindness, patience, and understanding. Love yourself enough to give yourself rest, nourishment, and space to heal. Spend time with yourself as if you’re with someone you adore, because you deserve that love too.

You are not just here to survive. You are here to live, to experience, to grow, and to find the things that bring you joy. Don’t let the weight of this moment convince you that this is all there is, your story is still unfolding, and there is so much more ahead for you. Keep going. You are stronger than you know.

@YouForia0809 Please feel free to reach out to me. I am married since many years and will surely listen and support best I can while not giving the usual responses.

For now, I will say everything you are going through is valid. Post partum is real and you deserve all the support you can get. I hope your partner understands your needs, your emotions and assists you however he can. You are doing what you can and this needs to be appreciated. You are appreciated ❤

Postpartum depression is serious. Do you have a doctor to help you with your depression?

Do you know anything about thought redirection/cognitive behavioral therapy? If not, I would recommend finding a therapist that can help you with cognitive behavioral therapy. It’s helped a lot with my anxiety.

https://www.apa.org,ptsd-guideline,patients-and-families,cognitive-behavioral#:~:text=CBT%20treatment%20usually%20involves%20efforts,behavior%20and%20motivation%20of%20others.

are you sleeping when the baby sleeps? How much does baby cry? And when you’re feeling rage, what do you do with baby? It’s ok to put baby in the crib while you feel things and come

back to baby and baby’s needs when emotions pass or after a really good cry. People say to get thins done when baby sleeps, but I slept cause I was tired. I have also found generally speaking and only from observation, women feel partners don’t do as much work as those who had the baby. If that’s creeping in, I think that’s normal. Marriages take a hit case it’s not about you guys anymore, there’s another entity that needs more and that’s a lot of times when people find out how much the other person is wiling to give. I don’t know how receptive your partner is, but you guys may needs to figure out how to communicate again, or now that baby is here What kind of break makes you feel “normal”.

i felt that way… it was hard to find meaning cause things changed so much. I don’t have any advice of how to get through it. I remember, however, feeling those feelings-feeling out of control, life turned upside down and trying to find center again. And the Mom guilt is real…

I will say, I got my babies on sleep

schedules, and though we then became slaves to the sleep schedules, I did find it helped me mentally, to get that break of caring for others. You will get meaning for yourself again, but right now, baby needs you. There is no one else in this world that will take care of your child the way

you will take care of your child. You are Mom, with a capital M. You are their world. You are important.

somehow, your partner needs to help you feel like a person, not Mom. I once heard someone say on a tv show,” I knew he lost interest in me because he saw me as a mother and not as a woman” and that struck me how true that felt to me. I was no longer my own person, but there for everyone else’s needs, I was Mom. And I raged about that, cause my own familial trauma. Things got better and then baby got fun and hard and now I’m have teenagers and going through menopause (eye roll), so now I’m trying to figure out this s$it…

youre doing great-keep going…