Lonely and frustrated
Hi I’m new here. I thought I had already created a thread but I couldn’t find it so I’m writing again.
I’m 45 and i recently gave birth to my baby who is now 4 months old. My marriage is breaking down after birth. My husband doesn’t work but he also doesn’t want to help out much with the baby. He loves her but he thinks it’s degrading to look after baby at home. I work online from home and look after her at the same time. Sometimes it gets too much for me and I cry a lot. I have no support to go to and feel lonely even though I have a baby with me.
meanwhile my husband is enjoying his time hanging out with the neighbours and going out to meet friends. Since he didn’t work, he gets his finances from me. I’m starting to resent this after the birth of my child.
i tried talking to him but it ends up in heated quarrels that is not resolved. I just need to vent my frustration and see a few supportive comments.
@patientTree4231 I'm sorry you're going through that. Hope the kiddo is happy and healthy, that's amazing to fit one in at 45. But that's damn hard, when we're being sidelined by our hubby, and things get heated. Enough pressure as is looking after the tyke.
@patientTree4231 its my first day in here. you are going through it, have you tried communicating with your husband? I know it's an annoying question but sometimes it's better to communicate before braking down or having a meltdown. you deserve your husbands support, working from home and taking cafe of a four month old baby must be incredibly upsetting and hard. im proud you are able to come on here and put you heart out there. I hope your situation gets fixed soon. sending lots of love ❤️
Thank you for your love 💕 yes I have tried communicating and today I gathered enough courage to share the problems with his family so they’re aware. I’m not sure what’ll happen but think it should help because he’s a mama’s boy and will fear her. So far his brothers have been kind to me on the phone and said they will speak to him. Let’s see what happens next
@patientTree4231 firstly I'd like appreciate you for embracing motherhood. It absolutely isn't easy raising a kid single handledly especially when you've someone who could give some support. You'll need to know how amazing and valiant you're and your demands are absolutely fair. Least that you can expect from your husband is a little support. You'll also need to know that you'll need to be mentally strong for your child's upbringing. I know you've tried your ways to seek support. Things will change only when he realises how much you're struggling and I am sure the day isn't far. Stay positive. I am not sure if I can ping me but please be known that I or rather we are here to support you in anyway we could :)
