Is it better to ultimately be single?
Too many people are broken beyond repair and know this but intentionally get in relationships, expecting these relationships to be great, but of course they're all disasterous...
Too many people only get into relationships to appease others, and because they feel it's what is expected of them. Which ends up ultimately disastrous and with both people unhappy.
Too many people only get in relationships because they don't want to be excluded and look and be "odd one" left out because friends family all or most are in relationships and perhaps have kids...which is disasterous
Too many people just get into relationships because the one they truly love and want to be with don't want them, so they get with someone as a backup plan and perhaps to make the other jealous enough to want to be with them again...disasterous
Too many people know that they want to remain single but they get into relationships...and still act single and inappropriate..disasterous..
Are majority of people worth it??
Does remaining single ultimately bring the most peace even if that peace isn't known to that person yet??
@lavenderCranberry3121
What do you imagine a great relationship would look and feel like?
For you, would some degree of hurt and frustration and annoyance be worthwhile, to keep trying to find it? We learn so much along the way, and we get better and better at protecting ourselves, and detecting when someone isn't what they seemed.
Most of us do have our challenges... it's just a matter of finding others that find those things to be tolerable, or even endearing. Like me for instance, I'm probably more in need of reassurance than most, so I'd be perfect for a clingy type. Clinginess wouldn't bother me, nor would many superficial things.
Are there lots of people out there that aren't truly ready for a relationship with anyone? Of course! Some have no desire to ever compromise, or to give as much as they receive. Until they learn and grow, they may never be ready.
When we look for others with similar experiences, I think it helps our chances of finding someone that can relate and put in the effort. I think it's worth fighting for, because what else in life could be as satisfying?
Better to be happily single than unhappily together. Better to be happily together than happily single.
