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My boyfriend who is a narc. dumped me
reservedTangerine9348 June 22nd, 2022

On top of my mental health issues now I'm dealing with heartbreak. I hope I make it through this. He had just come back from deployment :(

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determinedSea6259 June 22nd, 2022

Sorry to read about your breakup. Heartbreak can be very hard to deal with and may take some time to get over but if your boyfriend was a narcissistic person than maybe this breakup is a blessing in disguise. I know heart ache can be rough but for your own mental health try to find the silver lining in this situation. I know it will be hard to see that silver lining but trust there is a blessing beneath it all. Stay strong!
slowdecline48 June 23rd, 2022

@reservedTangerine9348 That's rough going, definitely. But one thing worse than being dumped by a narcissist is being kept, used & abused by one. Remember this: You are free now.
marianda8 June 28th, 2022

Going through a bad breakup too. Feels unreal and the pain is the worst.

Thinking of you

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reservedTangerine9348 OP July 6th, 2022

@marianda8 Thank you so much

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comfortableIris2754 June 28th, 2022

@reservedTangerine9348

You are stronger than you realize. You will overcome this.

Please stay strong.

June 29th, 2022

How do you know he is a narc? That word gets thrown around so much these days it has lost its meaning. Its just another word for asshole these days and most people call their ex an asshole but they are a little biased

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reservedTangerine9348 OP July 6th, 2022

@Wizardz123 he was formally diagnosed in the military

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ladybug0806 June 29th, 2022

@reservedTangerine9348.


okay this is what you need to focus on


  1. Get up out of bed, don’t just lay there. Give yourself a few minutes but then Get up.
  2. wear something that makes you look and feel pretty
  3. put on some music and dance


slowly each day it will be easier you can do it.
Dan76 June 29th, 2022

@reservedTangerine9348 it's gonna hurt for a while, but if he is a narc, you'll eventually feel the weight lifted off your shoulders.
bubblePeach314 July 6th, 2022

I’m so sorry tangerine! I’m no stranger to relationships with narcs.

honestly, with as much love as I can muster for you right now, you will be better off. It even hurts me to say that!! The pain you have now is very real, and there seems to be no way to progress forward. Believe me, you can! And you will!!

look for the people who still want you in their lives…. They will come back if they have been gone… watch for those people!! Friends, family, etc. they all seem so far away right now but they will be coming back into your life and will hold you up and help you heal. Look for them!

also beware… the narc will try to Hoover you back, don’t play with that fire!

politeBeach5257 July 6th, 2022

I am very so about your breakup . i do hope u get a bity better .. take ur time to heal... ❤️

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