Do you cry
I feel like crying. I want a shoulder to cry on.I am 48. Shame..I should be a support , not a burden
@searchingformi hiii honeeey
Yes, I cry. I'm 40. I don't think there's any shame in needing a shoulder. That's why 7cups exists! We can all be a support and need support. I hope you can feel some release and relief soon. @searchingformi
@searchingformi
I haven't had a good cry lately but in the recent past I was one of those people who needed to cry or would cry. I had a huge problem with feeling life is unfair and loneliness. I'm trying to rearrange my life to what I think it should be so I'm trying to get over the unfair feelings. Also, now that I am married feeling lonely is not such a big problem. Not that I validate myself through others but that was the problem. I didn't have anyone. Supposedly it is good to cry it releases hormones that make us feel stressed.
@affectionateCat9553
That's helpful to know, I keep suppressing the need to cry, that's not healthy
@searchingformi Hi, dearest! You are never too old (or too young) to cry, to need attention, care and compassion. Likewise, fear has no age limit, nor does have any kind of human suffering. In this life, there are no "burdens", when you love someone you embrace them always, in good times and bad times. Don't be so hard on yourself: give love and allow yourself to be given that same love. That's true love: reciprocity, the unconditional pleasure of giving.
You are blessed if you have a family or friends. If not, never lose faith in Humanity. Solace can come from the most unsuspected people.
The world may, often, seem a dark, lonely and hopeless place. But there are so many good people out there! Trust the universe, trust universal justice.
I'll keep you in my thoughts. May you feel better soon.
No. It’s very rare. I’m a guy, I can’t really cry without it being weakness.
Just wanted to say welcome, @lookin4answers2lyfe. I hope you can connect with some support on 7 cups. Your feelings are valid and I'm sorry if others see if as weakness. You matter and you deserve to cry if you want to. It took strength even just to sign up and post. I'm glad you're here.
@Lookin4Answers2Lyfe
Haven't been able to cry for years either brother, have tried but failed. It's like it gets pushed out of you.
@Lookin4Answers2Lyfe
I'd say it's SEEN as a weakness, but it really isn't.
To show you are emotionally vulnerable shows real bravery
Male or female. It is healthy for all of us to cry and let out emotion.
Interesting topic... For years I found myself never crying, probably most of my adult life. Not at funerals, weddings, breakups. Almost never.
As my daughters got older I found myself tearing more often and even at odd times - like the ending of Lord of the Rings. At some point somewhere I had a breakthrough and now feel like I tear up almost too easily - to the point of it quickly turning into a chuckle.
You sometimes just have to unpack something that's blocking those stronger emotions from coming through. While a good cry is great - I still prefer a good laugh. 😏
@searchingformi
I am same. I consider crying as normal for me. No control. We are human. Anyone can be burden depending on situation. It is not your fault.
searchingformi, you are not a burden to us or anyone that is around you.
If they think or say you are a burden, that is a them problem, not a you problem.
Hugs
I've got you buddy. Crying is okay. And you're not a burden, you're precious to us.
Sending lots of love. ❤🤗
I cry. However, when I’m crying frequently that’s usually an indicator that my depression has worsened. So, if it’s that way for you, it might be beneficial to keep tabs on that and not let yourself fall too far before calling your psychiatrist, if you have one.
